I'm seeking creative ideas on how to persuade my spouse that I simply must go to a travel meet in December. He didn't quite make vomit noises when I mentioned it, but looked a bit (not unduly) irritated/bewildered/annoyed by my desire to compete in meets. (He hasn't raced much lately.) The timing was likewise unappealing. Any thoughts?
I was contemplating calling my mother and begging for a visit.
Can't just blast off and "do it" with the 3 kids, however tempting that seems at times.
Wave that new negligee under his nose, tell him you're packing it and that you booked two rooms, one for the kids... :D
Skip
C'mon, guys, this is too easy . . . we all know the way for a woman to get what she wants from a man, and it ain't shopping or food.
Don't withhold; deliver. Deliver until he's reduced to a whimpering, quivering wreck of his former self, cowering in a fetal position in the corner and moaning "sorry, hon, I just can't right now. Maybe after you get back from that three day meet thingie or whatever or something, but please just not right now. I'll watch the kids, don't worry, please just go now."
C'mon, guys, this is too easy . . . we all know the way for a woman to get what she wants from a man, and it ain't shopping or food.
Don't withhold; deliver. Deliver until he's reduced to a whimpering, quivering wreck of his former self, cowering in a fetal position in the corner and moaning "sorry, hon, I just can't right now. Maybe after you get back from that three day meet thingie or whatever or something, but please just not right now. I'll watch the kids, don't worry, please just go now."
Naturally, this had occured to me. :lolup:
Thanks for the responses, guys. I was hoping to attend the two day (perfectly willing to skip the 800 free on Friday night) NE SCM champs in Boston, a city I love. Can't go to closer Colonies Zones meet because of kids' meets/races on preceeding weekends. I think he just thinks it's toooo close to xmas. He's been to masters meets, Katie, and even traveled to some. He knows how boring they can be for non-swimmers, and I don't want to haul the whole family along (although my 13 year old has expressed an interest in attending).
I think I will attempt to follow the LBJ/BillS advice, and play the trump card of the Charles regatta. He also hauled off to NCAA finals not too long ago. He just doesn't get that I'd rather go to a swim meet than the spa with the girls.
Geek: I do not drive a mini-van. :shakeshead:
Tom: I would never phrase it as "have" to go. I told him quite honestly that I wanted to go. I'm dying to do a SCM meet. Then I could also meet some_girl. I don't think angrandizement is a word though, and that is not my issue, thank you!
Don't withhold; deliver.
Have you been in contact with Mr Fort? It sounds like the two of you are in cahoots. :)
The question is what does he object to? Is it the fact he'll have to be Mr. Mom for the couple days you're away? If so, I think you've got the upper hand on this one.
Luckily my spouse is a swimmer, so I don't have to go through these fights.
Yes, Muppet has the right idea too with his masters swimmer GF. It wasn't a "fight" at all. I just mentioned it, and noted lack of enthusiasm.
Kirk:
I think it's partially that he remembers last December -- very schedule hellish with 2 prelim final swim meets, a meet of mine at U of Md (apparently not happening this year) and cross country junior nats in Washington. All before the holidays. This year, our schedule is much easier. Being Mr. Mom is not that easy, but, yeah, I don't have much sympathy on that score.
Wave that new negligee under his nose, tell him you're packing it and that you booked two rooms, one for the kids... :D
Skip
And if he's not there to enjoy it, somebody else just might.
Well, I'm glad I'm married to a man that just wants me to do anything I want to do, travel included, that makes me happy. He is a non-swimmer but knows that water and swimming are my life and has been my life since age 7 or 8. And he's more than happy to let me fly anywhere to attend a swim function. The reason is this: if I'm happy, then he'll be happy. And this philosophy also works both ways. He wanted to go to the Indy 500 with his brother from California but didn't want to leave me alone. I helped him pack and happily drove him to the airport.
The bottom line here was this: we want to make one another happy and sometimes that means doing things separately because we don't share the same love for one another's interests.
:cheerleader:
And this theory is why I'm betting I will go! We'll see.
But, er, "just wants you to do anything you want to do"?! Hmmm.... anything? (I would also note that you two are kid-less and therefore different rules apply. :mooning: :thhbbb: :wine: )
