How to persuade spouse you must go to a meet?

Unfortunately, I have to emphathize with you on this one.....my wife does not understand the need for competing....AT ALL.....It's a complete waste of time to her. Although, if it's an away meet and she gets to fly there with me and it's a cool place to go.....it's OK:frustrated::frustrated::censor::censor:

"Not tonight,dear, I have a headache." Repeat until submission. -LBJ This one has worked for centuries!!:rofl:

HMMMMMMMMMMMM How far away is the travel meet? Is it because it costs money or just because he does not think you should be doing swim meets? To be honest I had not even considered what my spouse would think once I am up to a meet. I plan on just telling him and if for sommmmmeeeeeeeeee unexpected reason ( like I get pretty good:D) and I ever made provincials, I would expect that he would support me. I work fulltime, birthed his two gorgeous daughters, had thyroid cancer and am now swimming at 4:45 am. I really dont think it would be a problem LOL. Every relationship is so different. But if he is doing his own thing like going to the regatta ................... um as someone said here just do it. I guess you have to do what you are comfortable with. Perhaps he could go with you and leave the kids at home and he could see what a meet is all about. Good luck and let us know what happens. Katie

This one has worked for centuries!!:rofl: Oh wait, I'm rooting for the wrong team.:mad: I've been on the receiving end of this.:frustrated: :cry::whiteflag: ;)

the being able to "do anything" can be a curse at times in our land of excess. I think that's another major reason as to why I swim. Keeps me grounded, disciplined. It's a bit of a reality check. Last I checked a stellar swim won't just fall into my lap. Too bad! :D How true! I think a lot of stellar swims are in your future though. :banana:

Now that thar is funny.....I don't care who you are...that's funny.....:lmao: C'mon, guys, this is too easy . . . we all know the way for a woman to get what she wants from a man, and it ain't shopping or food. Don't withhold; deliver. Deliver until he's reduced to a whimpering, quivering wreck of his former self, cowering in a fetal position in the corner and moaning "sorry, hon, I just can't right now. Maybe after you get back from that three day meet thingie or whatever or something, but please just not right now. I'll watch the kids, don't worry, please just go now."

The fact is you don't need to go to that meet, you want to go the meet. Perhaps rephrashing it in this more accurate manner might help. If you are under the impression that you actually do need to go the meet, see "Taming Your Gremlin" for your own self aggrandizement.

This is an interesting and important question.I can think of 3 approaches to take. 1) Rational: I'll take the 12 year old,our son is big enough to take care of himself.All you have to do is care for the youngest and she's no trouble at all.You'll have fun. 2) Bargaining: You want to go to that (whatever) so it's only fair that I get to go to the meet. 3)Fait Accompli:I have this swim meet coming up and I wanted to give you enough time to plan how you're going to handle the kids. Good Luck.If this is your only chance to swim SCM then you HAVE to go. I have an inducement to get him to want to come to Oregon in Aug. The Hood to Coast run will be around the time of Nats so they could come for that too.

C'mon, guys, this is too easy . . . we all know the way for a woman to get what she wants from a man, and it ain't shopping or food. Don't withhold; deliver. Deliver until he's reduced to a whimpering, quivering wreck of his former self, cowering in a fetal position in the corner and moaning "sorry, hon, I just can't right now. Maybe after you get back from that three day meet thingie or whatever or something, but please just not right now. I'll watch the kids, don't worry, please just go now." Bill: Did Mr Fort pay you to write this??:laugh2:

fort, i don't think i am going to that meet. i can babysit :):banana: