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Spouses and Swimming

skiboy58
over 2 years ago

I have a spouse (actually domestic partner) who not only doesn't swim, but doesn't really exercise (ok, we both ski, but that's 3-4 months a year). While I got back into swimming a little over ten years ago and we are still together, she continues to make snarky comments about how I would rather swim than spend time with her. I swim only about 3-4 days a week, and I am usually gone about 2 hours all together. It's not a deal breaker on either end, but the comments wear thin.

For me, I feel like this is life and death. I was dx with diabetes in my early 50s, which got me back into the sport. It's made a huge difference. I've entered only about 2-3 actual meets a year on average and work out on my own. I've recently been considering joining a team and am afraid this is going to make things worse.

How do folks deal with a non-swimming spouse that isn't that supportive?

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  • over 2 years ago

    Golly, so sorry to hear you’re having to maneuver through such a sticky situation.  Have you pointed out that, health wise, swimming is really important so you can be around a lot longer?  A former team mate was able to turn his diabetes around, dropped cholesterol and triglycerides down to normal/excellent levels when he joined a masters team.  He was a former collegiate swimmer.   At the time he got back in the pool he was in his 60’s.  He’s in his 80’s now and going strong!  Can you invite her to go lap swimming with you?  Get her in the pool.  Perhaps attend a meet and see what goes on - so much fellowship with great people.  How ablout asking if she’s be interested in learning to judge and get certified?  That way, swimming and meets become something you enjoy together.  My husband and I are both in a US Master’s team.  We hold each other accountable.  I hope she eases up on you.  This is for your health.  Perhaps approach it in that light.  

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  • over 2 years ago

    Golly, so sorry to hear you’re having to maneuver through such a sticky situation.  Have you pointed out that, health wise, swimming is really important so you can be around a lot longer?  A former team mate was able to turn his diabetes around, dropped cholesterol and triglycerides down to normal/excellent levels when he joined a masters team.  He was a former collegiate swimmer.   At the time he got back in the pool he was in his 60’s.  He’s in his 80’s now and going strong!  Can you invite her to go lap swimming with you?  Get her in the pool.  Perhaps attend a meet and see what goes on - so much fellowship with great people.  How ablout asking if she’s be interested in learning to judge and get certified?  That way, swimming and meets become something you enjoy together.  My husband and I are both in a US Master’s team.  We hold each other accountable.  I hope she eases up on you.  This is for your health.  Perhaps approach it in that light.  

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