This topic does not involve swimming AT all ... sorry ... I cannot stand my co-worker! She drives me crazy. First of all, I work in a very small law firm. There a total of eight employees. Four attorneys (one is part time), two secretaries, an errand boy (aka the head partner’s son), and myself. We have an open office sans cubicles. So there is NO escape. Moving on ... we are a very busy firm. Normally we have a couple of law clerks but right now we don’t. So most of the extra work falls on me. We don’t really have carved out jobs really we all kind of do everything. Though we do all have things that only we do. The annoying co-worker complains non-stop all day long. Seriously. Either she doesn’t have enough to do or the guys ask her to do stuff and she flips out “I don’t have time for this. I can’t handle this right now.” She complains about everything she is asked to do. She complains and/or comments on every phone call she answers. She gets all snippy with me and has basically told me that if I keep eating the way I do (I snack on healthy things all day) that I am going to get fat, so I should enjoy it while I can get away with it. She talks endlessly about how her son is in marching band and how that is the most important thing EVER, how hard it is and how much time it takes up ... I want to yell, do you know how many hours a week I spent in a gym in high school? Like, 30! AH! I can’t take it. I seriously want to yell SHUT UP! Everyone is busy and no one cares. She is a drama queen to the max. She is ALWAYS in pain, her knee, her back, she has a headache, a stomach ache, a cold ... she hasn’t been here everyday all day for two weeks since I started in September. It drives me crazy. I am really afraid that one day I’ll just blurt out shut up you whiney wench! Gr! Do any of you have annoying co-workers and how do you deal with it? Thanks!
Usually, I am not a complainer I swear, and I do see the irony of complaining about someone complaining.
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Originally posted by Tom Ellison
Interesting posts….
I have found over the years that people at work (life in general) are much the same as the guy who wakes up and drives to work some faceless morning and gets killed in a car wreck….People do not get up in the morning and go…Oh wow, I want to go get killed in a car wreck today anymore then they say...Oh wow, I get to go into the office today and totally hack off everyone I work with…..
In that I mean….people …. Mostly….are not intentionally being bad employees or butt heads….they just do not realize it…and if they did….MOST would change or alter the behavior that is offensive.
In the few cases where they do not care…well….I stay away from those types because when enough is enough…I can be blunt if needed….
My suggestion is to share a story of someone else in your life who exhibits the SAME behavior that she does, and tell her this person drives you wild…….and see if she catches the correlation to her own behavior….
As I was reading all these posts, I had this exact same thought: engage her in a tale of someone who has the same annoying traits that she has and describe how it makes everyone around this person crazy and want to kill the person. See if she takes the hint. (You could end the tale by saying, "hint, hint.")
If she doesn't get the hint, maybe you could try the direct approach. Consider this: during one of her rants, stand there with a bewildered look on your face in plain view of all. When she finishes, ask to see her in the broom closet, the kitchen, the loo, or somewhere else. Then tell her what you think. You are leaving in 4 months. It may be therapeutic. It may brighten everyone's day. It may enlighten her. (It may enrage her also.) But the point is: why do you have to live with her? Why not make her live with you for a while? You may leave a lasting legacy at your firm.
Now back to swimming....
Originally posted by Tom Ellison
Interesting posts….
I have found over the years that people at work (life in general) are much the same as the guy who wakes up and drives to work some faceless morning and gets killed in a car wreck….People do not get up in the morning and go…Oh wow, I want to go get killed in a car wreck today anymore then they say...Oh wow, I get to go into the office today and totally hack off everyone I work with…..
In that I mean….people …. Mostly….are not intentionally being bad employees or butt heads….they just do not realize it…and if they did….MOST would change or alter the behavior that is offensive.
In the few cases where they do not care…well….I stay away from those types because when enough is enough…I can be blunt if needed….
My suggestion is to share a story of someone else in your life who exhibits the SAME behavior that she does, and tell her this person drives you wild…….and see if she catches the correlation to her own behavior….
As I was reading all these posts, I had this exact same thought: engage her in a tale of someone who has the same annoying traits that she has and describe how it makes everyone around this person crazy and want to kill the person. See if she takes the hint. (You could end the tale by saying, "hint, hint.")
If she doesn't get the hint, maybe you could try the direct approach. Consider this: during one of her rants, stand there with a bewildered look on your face in plain view of all. When she finishes, ask to see her in the broom closet, the kitchen, the loo, or somewhere else. Then tell her what you think. You are leaving in 4 months. It may be therapeutic. It may brighten everyone's day. It may enlighten her. (It may enrage her also.) But the point is: why do you have to live with her? Why not make her live with you for a while? You may leave a lasting legacy at your firm.
Now back to swimming....
