This topic does not involve swimming AT all ... sorry ... I cannot stand my co-worker! She drives me crazy. First of all, I work in a very small law firm. There a total of eight employees. Four attorneys (one is part time), two secretaries, an errand boy (aka the head partner’s son), and myself. We have an open office sans cubicles. So there is NO escape. Moving on ... we are a very busy firm. Normally we have a couple of law clerks but right now we don’t. So most of the extra work falls on me. We don’t really have carved out jobs really we all kind of do everything. Though we do all have things that only we do. The annoying co-worker complains non-stop all day long. Seriously. Either she doesn’t have enough to do or the guys ask her to do stuff and she flips out “I don’t have time for this. I can’t handle this right now.” She complains about everything she is asked to do. She complains and/or comments on every phone call she answers. She gets all snippy with me and has basically told me that if I keep eating the way I do (I snack on healthy things all day) that I am going to get fat, so I should enjoy it while I can get away with it. She talks endlessly about how her son is in marching band and how that is the most important thing EVER, how hard it is and how much time it takes up ... I want to yell, do you know how many hours a week I spent in a gym in high school? Like, 30! AH! I can’t take it. I seriously want to yell SHUT UP! Everyone is busy and no one cares. She is a drama queen to the max. She is ALWAYS in pain, her knee, her back, she has a headache, a stomach ache, a cold ... she hasn’t been here everyday all day for two weeks since I started in September. It drives me crazy. I am really afraid that one day I’ll just blurt out shut up you whiney wench! Gr! Do any of you have annoying co-workers and how do you deal with it? Thanks!
Usually, I am not a complainer I swear, and I do see the irony of complaining about someone complaining.
Wow Fishgrrl!, That's a great reply! Sounds like you've learned pretty well how to deal with some tough situations! kudos!
I am new to the office scene, I used to work in a lab, and everyone pretty much kept to themselves, I didn't find anyone to be annoying.. However, I now work for the state environmental department in a "cube farm" and there are in fact a few people that stand out in my mind as having been pretty invasive into other people's (i.e. my..) space.
One woman here acts a bit like a school bully. She used to creep up behind me in my cube and kick my chair really hard.. she thought it was funny. I didn't know how to voice my concerns so my comments came out sarcastically.. you know.. I really LOVE it when you come in here and kick my chair like that. etc.. and one time she acknowledged that she knew I didn't like it. but she kept doing it anyway. She also used my cube (and many others) to vent her life story on a daily basis, and how everything is unfair and the world is out to get her etc. etc...
Finally one day (I couldn't help it) I came up behind her and kicked her chair. I didn't have a bitchy attitude or anything, just said hey.. how's it going? etc.. she finallly at the end of the conversation said btw.. thanks for scaring the Sh@#T out of me!.. lol..
she's never kicked my chair again ;)
I don't think that many people realize how it feels to be the other person they're dealing with. I don't think too many people intentionally mean to make others crazy, or try to make people feel badly, I just don't think they take a look outside their own perspective very often.
As for the invading of space by others, I've learned to keep my headphones to my computer on, (even if i"m not listening to music), It tends to tell other people that I'm "busy". I also have kept myself pretty busy and that's seemed to help..
I know it's difficult to deal with some people sometimes, but In reality, I think many people act these ways because they have very low self esteem.. I don't think it's ok for them to dump their problems on everyone else, but sometimes knowing the reason behind behavior can help you to figure out how to approach it.. or at least understand it a little better..
Wow Fishgrrl!, That's a great reply! Sounds like you've learned pretty well how to deal with some tough situations! kudos!
I am new to the office scene, I used to work in a lab, and everyone pretty much kept to themselves, I didn't find anyone to be annoying.. However, I now work for the state environmental department in a "cube farm" and there are in fact a few people that stand out in my mind as having been pretty invasive into other people's (i.e. my..) space.
One woman here acts a bit like a school bully. She used to creep up behind me in my cube and kick my chair really hard.. she thought it was funny. I didn't know how to voice my concerns so my comments came out sarcastically.. you know.. I really LOVE it when you come in here and kick my chair like that. etc.. and one time she acknowledged that she knew I didn't like it. but she kept doing it anyway. She also used my cube (and many others) to vent her life story on a daily basis, and how everything is unfair and the world is out to get her etc. etc...
Finally one day (I couldn't help it) I came up behind her and kicked her chair. I didn't have a bitchy attitude or anything, just said hey.. how's it going? etc.. she finallly at the end of the conversation said btw.. thanks for scaring the Sh@#T out of me!.. lol..
she's never kicked my chair again ;)
I don't think that many people realize how it feels to be the other person they're dealing with. I don't think too many people intentionally mean to make others crazy, or try to make people feel badly, I just don't think they take a look outside their own perspective very often.
As for the invading of space by others, I've learned to keep my headphones to my computer on, (even if i"m not listening to music), It tends to tell other people that I'm "busy". I also have kept myself pretty busy and that's seemed to help..
I know it's difficult to deal with some people sometimes, but In reality, I think many people act these ways because they have very low self esteem.. I don't think it's ok for them to dump their problems on everyone else, but sometimes knowing the reason behind behavior can help you to figure out how to approach it.. or at least understand it a little better..
