I think it is sad we have slipped down the slope we call “being civil”. Being away from these posts for the better part of a week has allowed me to look at them in a different light then before. The thoughts and feelings of many of the people who post here are very raw right now. Decency, understanding, compassion, patience and kindness have been lost to pain and anger.
I have learned some very valuable lessons over the past nineteen months. Often, anger is directly driven by pain. I read pain into many of the post here. People have offended one another and tramped on each others toes and people have been hurt emotionally.
Gosh, I am the farthest thing from a counselor or referee for that matter, but I am qualified to say that each of us has good days, and each of us has bad days. Without exception, EVERY SINGLE POSTER was decent, understanding and compassionate towards me during a very tough time in my life. Ion has a way of invoking anger and hostility in people. Having said that, he reached out to me during a very tough time and demonstrated a very different and compassionate side then the one we see here.
My point, in the final annalists we call life, what more do we really have then one another? We are a body of swimmers who share a common bond for the love of swimming and adult exercise in the water. Let us keep to this course as opposed to offending one another and fracturing our beloved sport with pain, hard feelings and anger. We are different, yet, we are the same. We all love our children, we all want to excel in life, we all want to think of ourselves are winners, we all want to be free people, we all want to raise our families and enjoy life as best we can. Regardless of how fast we are, how smart we are or anything else…. in the final toll….we all want and strive for many of the same things. As we all did on playgrounds all over the world as children, let’s shake hands and make up….
Parents
Former Member
Originally posted by Ion Beza
I still keep in mind posts where my results are demeaned;
this is not good sportsmanship
You are the one that made your times an issue and a subject for discussion when you:
Stated that you were faster than 90% of USMS swimmers, but didn't specify whether this meant all 42,000 members or only those who actually train seriously and compete.
Compared your times to those of women 10 years older than you.
Insisted that no other "late bloomer" had accomplished what you had, dismissing or ignoring any and all posts to the contrary.
Discredited the results of "early bloomers" because their times were obviously the result of training from 20 or 30 years ago and didn't require much effort.
I have not found that USMS members judge each other by their times. In fact, I've been impressed with the encouragement that even the slowest swimmers receive at meets (and on this forum for that matter). To you, though, this is a sign of weakness.
You seek recognition, but only on your terms.
Originally posted by Ion Beza
I still keep in mind posts where my results are demeaned;
this is not good sportsmanship
You are the one that made your times an issue and a subject for discussion when you:
Stated that you were faster than 90% of USMS swimmers, but didn't specify whether this meant all 42,000 members or only those who actually train seriously and compete.
Compared your times to those of women 10 years older than you.
Insisted that no other "late bloomer" had accomplished what you had, dismissing or ignoring any and all posts to the contrary.
Discredited the results of "early bloomers" because their times were obviously the result of training from 20 or 30 years ago and didn't require much effort.
I have not found that USMS members judge each other by their times. In fact, I've been impressed with the encouragement that even the slowest swimmers receive at meets (and on this forum for that matter). To you, though, this is a sign of weakness.
You seek recognition, but only on your terms.
