This is a great topic of discussion for us.
When does working out and training for an event take too much time away from family?
Is it different if your spouse isn't a swimmer or athletic?
How does your spouse feel about how much you train each week?
What comprimises have you made?
2011 WSJ Article:
A Workout Ate My Marriage
Exercise Can Set Off Conflict About Family, Free Time; Errands vs. English Channel
What's funny is I trained with Jordan (featured in the article) on Thursday July 5th, 2007 at Asphalt Green in NYC, he gave me a ride back by my hotel which was pretty close to his office. Very nice guy.
2 top emotional needs for most women are affection and conversation.
2 top emotional needs for most men are Recreational Companionship and Physical Attractiveness
Great, once again I'm a guy.
I didn't start competing in masters swimming until I was 44. Just too busy with a job and 3 kids, though I did usually exercise either at lunch or at night after my kids went to bed (no swimming though, I am not a recreational or lap swimmer). I did occasionally resent my husband (an obsessive runner) for being gone every single morning. But this was partially my own fault for letting mommy guilt prevent me from doing my own thing more. Now, we both compete in our respective sports, which works out well, though we have to carefully plan our schedules on weekends. It also helps that he is a morning workout person and I am a night owl, so he can always have the early am slot. I've already submitted my list of meets for 2011. He signed up for a series of trail races without first consulting management and one of them conflicted with my pre-approved meet. Bad boy!
Elaine -- is this the husband who won't let you get up early to avoid noodlers?
2 top emotional needs for most women are affection and conversation.
2 top emotional needs for most men are Recreational Companionship and Physical Attractiveness
Great, once again I'm a guy.
I didn't start competing in masters swimming until I was 44. Just too busy with a job and 3 kids, though I did usually exercise either at lunch or at night after my kids went to bed (no swimming though, I am not a recreational or lap swimmer). I did occasionally resent my husband (an obsessive runner) for being gone every single morning. But this was partially my own fault for letting mommy guilt prevent me from doing my own thing more. Now, we both compete in our respective sports, which works out well, though we have to carefully plan our schedules on weekends. It also helps that he is a morning workout person and I am a night owl, so he can always have the early am slot. I've already submitted my list of meets for 2011. He signed up for a series of trail races without first consulting management and one of them conflicted with my pre-approved meet. Bad boy!
Elaine -- is this the husband who won't let you get up early to avoid noodlers?
