This is a great topic of discussion for us.
When does working out and training for an event take too much time away from family?
Is it different if your spouse isn't a swimmer or athletic?
How does your spouse feel about how much you train each week?
What comprimises have you made?
2011 WSJ Article:
A Workout Ate My Marriage
Exercise Can Set Off Conflict About Family, Free Time; Errands vs. English Channel
What's funny is I trained with Jordan (featured in the article) on Thursday July 5th, 2007 at Asphalt Green in NYC, he gave me a ride back by my hotel which was pretty close to his office. Very nice guy.
Well, I would say, "when you have three kids under 12 and a M - F day job but you eat dinner with your family only once a week and you spend 1/3 of your weekend waking hours, every weekend, with people other than your partner and kids." One could blame the career or the sports, depending on one's biases, but something does look pretty unbalanced there.
Spending that much time away from your spouse and kids could lead to resentment and trouble. We all need to strike a balance.
2 top emotional needs for most women are affection and conversation.
It's likely that an absent exercise obsessed spouse might not be meeting those needs as well as they could.
2 top emotional needs for most men are Recreational Companionship and Physical Attractiveness
It's not good if our spouse isn't our primary recreational companion and being around very fit healthy members of the opposite sex could cause unrealistic expectations.
One of the biggest Love Busters is Independent Behavior I'm going to train or go to competitions when I want, no matter what, end of discussion, could cause trouble.
The Policy of Joint Agreement
"Never do anything without an enthusiastic agreement
between you and your spouse" might help couples in conflict.
The spouse at home could start feeling ignored, neglected, or put upon.
Well, I would say, "when you have three kids under 12 and a M - F day job but you eat dinner with your family only once a week and you spend 1/3 of your weekend waking hours, every weekend, with people other than your partner and kids." One could blame the career or the sports, depending on one's biases, but something does look pretty unbalanced there.
Spending that much time away from your spouse and kids could lead to resentment and trouble. We all need to strike a balance.
2 top emotional needs for most women are affection and conversation.
It's likely that an absent exercise obsessed spouse might not be meeting those needs as well as they could.
2 top emotional needs for most men are Recreational Companionship and Physical Attractiveness
It's not good if our spouse isn't our primary recreational companion and being around very fit healthy members of the opposite sex could cause unrealistic expectations.
One of the biggest Love Busters is Independent Behavior I'm going to train or go to competitions when I want, no matter what, end of discussion, could cause trouble.
The Policy of Joint Agreement
"Never do anything without an enthusiastic agreement
between you and your spouse" might help couples in conflict.
The spouse at home could start feeling ignored, neglected, or put upon.
