Here's a thread for the ladies to discuss anything that relates to women and swimming. For example, feel free to discuss how disgustingly ugly fastskins are, how the "curse" can kill a meet, how suits don't fit, how swimming wrecks your hair, how hormones unhinge you, etc.
Why is there so much public crying, angst and drama among girls in their early-to-mid teens at swim meets? The last few swim meets I've been at, I've seen a fair number of girls sobbing on deck after races. For example, I just attended a summer league all star meet and the winner of an event was crying at the award ceremony (failed to do a PB) in front of all the girls who finished behind her. Blech. They cry over everything -- didn't do a PB, "choked" at a big meet, haven't improved in their signature stroke, let the relay down, swam worse in finals than prelims, didn't do as well as their seed, lost to a rival, etc. My kid's no better; she just had strep throat before a couple big meets and has been in full drama mode.
I'm not a fan of crying at sporting events. Can't they cry in private in the locker room or something? How can you create some perspective/big picture for the hormonal ones?
Fort - You have to remember that this is their world. It's all relative. It seems that many high-achievers seem to be perfectionists to the point that when they fall short of their own high, often unrealistic goals, it is the end of the world.
As other things become more important in their life, it seems they outgrow the crying spells after a disappointing race. We have a perspective that they don't have and they can't relate to.
Why is there so much public crying, angst and drama among girls in their early-to-mid teens at swim meets? The last few swim meets I've been at, I've seen a fair number of girls sobbing on deck after races. For example, I just attended a summer league all star meet and the winner of an event was crying at the award ceremony (failed to do a PB) in front of all the girls who finished behind her. Blech. They cry over everything -- didn't do a PB, "choked" at a big meet, haven't improved in their signature stroke, let the relay down, swam worse in finals than prelims, didn't do as well as their seed, lost to a rival, etc. My kid's no better; she just had strep throat before a couple big meets and has been in full drama mode.
I'm not a fan of crying at sporting events. Can't they cry in private in the locker room or something? How can you create some perspective/big picture for the hormonal ones?
Fort - You have to remember that this is their world. It's all relative. It seems that many high-achievers seem to be perfectionists to the point that when they fall short of their own high, often unrealistic goals, it is the end of the world.
As other things become more important in their life, it seems they outgrow the crying spells after a disappointing race. We have a perspective that they don't have and they can't relate to.
