How to persuade spouse you must go to a meet?

fort, i don't think i am going to that meet. i can babysit :):banana: Will there be Yeunglings at the party?

Be exactly like the Nike add..... Just do it!:D

If he is genuinely irritated by the idea of your travel meet, then you should not press the issue. Put yourself in his shoes before you ask again would be my advice. Aside from that, consider a compromise of sorts. You go to the meet and he gets something that he has been wanting to do..or buy him a new M5.

"Not tonight,dear, I have a headache." Repeat until submission. -LBJ

Getting "wifed"... now that's funny. (Well not really.)...just never heard it put that way. Honestly, supporting a healthy lifestyle of one's spouse should be encouraged. My family knows how much I enjoy the water...and letting me disappear for few hours into the surf or the pool is good medicine. At the end of the day it takes a swimmer to know one. We are unique in our desire to congregate for hours on end ...in often stuffy chlorinated buildings ...waiting patiently for the next opportunity to get on the blocks and inflict some more pain. And along with that fleeting moment, comes exhilaration which can last for a very long time...especially if it's a personal best...or arrival at a long term goal. Pure healthy fun.

Awwww, I thought Fort was the same age as me, and an August b-day right? Now I sound like a stalker, but there was a quiz on here for songs the week you were born and we had the same song. I had my kids earlier though, 19 and 14. When the 19 year old was into age group swimming, we had a few years where December held pre-lim final meets, or big meets in Indy. While the meets were good, and he swam well, we both decided that it just made December too crazy. Now I will not do a travel meet in December, and have not for about 6 years. Much nicer, and my daughter is very happy with that. She trains through December, and then goes to a meet the first weekend in January. As for me, I would like to go to meets, but myself cannot justify the expense, or time to drive 2 hours + on weekends that are already packed with family stuff. I figure I will be patient, because in 4 short years DD will be in college and I will have an empty house(maybe).

Awwww, I thought Fort was the same age as me, and an August b-day right? Now I sound like a stalker, but there was a quiz on here for songs the week you were born and we had the same song. I have decided upon implementation of Allen Stark #2 and #3! As further support, I will observe that I skipped many local masters meets this year, as the Muppets can attest, for family-packed weekends. I only ask for 4-5 meets per year. I'm not at my limit yet! Dorothy, I'm a month older with a July birthday. You young chick. I put off having kids for a career for awhile. Dave: We have done aquathlon relays together. Mr. Fort likes the OW, not necessarily for racing though. I have done running races with him in my running days. But I unfortunately am not an OW fan. Don't need the big chop with my shoulders. And my summer is WAY too busy for the OW season. Now, if we're talking Eleuthera some day, maybe ....

i just noticed that stud and muppets avatars are bookends......weird. Yeah, I was up first :) Unfortunately, I think stud and I have switched body types, as my injury hasn't helped maintain that physique. Welcome back, David- we've missed you this summer! Back to the thread, Fort, you went to coral springs and worlds. both were last year. and I am assuming the family did NOT come to FLA. But in terms of travel, you've not done any for over a year. I think you'd have a good argument on frequency. Plus, also, you're only really gone for one day. You are home to see the kids off to school and can be there for when they get home, and maybe for dinner too. Then hop in the car and on a plane. Saturday you're away. Sunday, you swim and get on a plane and are home for dinner.

Back to the thread, Fort, you went to coral springs and worlds. both were last year. and I am assuming the family did NOT come to FLA. But in terms of travel, you've not done any for over a year. I think you'd have a good argument on frequency. Plus, also, you're only really gone for one day. You are home to see the kids off to school and can be there for when they get home, and maybe for dinner too. Then hop in the car and on a plane. Saturday you're away. Sunday, you swim and get on a plane and are home for dinner. Exactly! Er, the fam did come to Coral Springs to see the in-laws. I compromised by only swimming on Friday and Sunday and having family time on Saturday. Haven't travelled since August 2006. I'd be back Sunday night. I am so winning the frequency/deprivation debate. Muhahaha.

Katie: Thanks so much for the good wishes. Mr. Fort is a very good man, usually very supportive. As a runner, though, he just thinks swimming takes a blasted long time: workouts are longers, you have to spend time driving to the pool, meets are longer than running races, meets aren't always local, etc. But he and the kids are proud of me. I am 46. I started masters swimming and competing at 44. My first meet was in October 2005, and I was very nervous! My kids all aged up in August and are now 15, 13, and 7. The older two do very time consuming endurance sports and the younger one is pretty active. So we're really busy, like many folks. I fully understand and empathize with your comment about committing to do something for yourself. Although I exercised fairly regularly during my non-swimming years, it's easy to feel like you are DFL in everyone else's priority list. And a re-prioritization is usually a good thing, especially when your kids become teenagers, are more independent and, well, are not always fun to be around. So you go girl! :cheerleader: (Oh, I'd add some running for that tummy issue. Or use a monofin!)