How to deal with pool bullies?

Former Member
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I can't believe this happened to poor poor me.:violin: Recently, I was I'm getting into the outdoor pool in my new residence. The pool has one lap lane. Just as I'm setting up, I hear someone say "oh, you live here?" (not too happily). I turn around and see an older woman standing there with more attitude than all my equipment (and I carry a lot). Long story short, she makes it very clear that this is "her time" and "her lane" and people who live there respect that. I was so shocked I gave in to this bully and let her have the lane and swam on the outside but it wasn't very pleasant. At every opportunity she tried to grill me about where I lived, why I wasn't there all summer, :blah::blah:. The primary reason I selected this development was because of the pool, and lap lane. It's already annoying that it opens later than I'm used to and she made it very clear that she would be there every day upon opening. I hate swimming later in the day - it's too hot and breaks up my whole day. I'm ready to move out already! I guess we will have to alternate use of the lap lane because I am not changing my schedule and I don't think I should have to. :dunno:
  • Renie, I have a couple of thoughts about this situation.... First do you pay for the pool in your community fees and/or do you pay a fee to get in? If you do either way, you have every right to share a lane with this person, unless this person has paid extra to reserve the lane for themselves. From a pool managers perspective, it is all about good lane usage and bringing a good number of patrons in to use the pool. Unless someone is paying premuim prices to swim alone (renting the lane) then this person should be required to share a lane. Of course I agree with everyone to try and be nice and find a way to share with this horrible, spoiled, lane hog!!!! If this doesn't work, I would then talk with the pool management. If there is someone more responsible than the pool lifeguard, take some time with this person and figure out what pool policy is regarding this situation. If this fails, I would then mention to her how you and your doctor have been working really hard at finding the best way to control your bladder problem. Then make sure you push off before her!!:rofl:
  • Oh, an apartment noodler, the most insidious of all the noodler classes, too cheap to join a gym and possessive of her lane. Your first mistake was giving in. But, the shock of the incident and your common decency can explain that away. Don't give in again. Instead turn the tide and insist on circle swimming if she starts in again. Hold your ground, fight back. She'll probably go kicking and screaming to the complex managers who won't want a thing to do with her. Why can't you share a lane like every other pool in the world? Ask her that. Alternatively, when she shows up again tell her you really terribly have to pee and won't be but a few more minutes, and then stay an hour. She'll be thinking about that the whole time.
  • Yup, that's how I will deal with this one next year. :duel: Next year? You need to go out there today and take back the pool, unless it's closed.
  • ...it's actually a high end adult community. Like "high end" adult entertainment? Maybe try sans swimsuit. I'll bet she won't bother you.:mooning:
  • Former Member
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    Two people should be able to share a lane with ease. If that does not work and you want some ideas for revenge...let me know. :D
  • Former Member
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    Fix her put a box of detergent in the pool and put a froth on the pool for her arrival. A couple of cups of powdered milk also deters people like her from swimming.
  • Former Member
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    Here's how I would have handled it. "I live here and have as much business in this pool as you do. Too bad if you have a problem."
  • Former Member
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    Two people should be able to share a lane with ease. If that does not work and you want some ideas for revenge...let me know. :D The lane is narrow with ladders along the wall. She does this poor rendition of backstroke - you know the type - all over the lane.
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    Oh, an apartment noodler, the most insidious of all the noodler classes, too cheap to join a gym and possessive of her lane. Alternatively, when she shows up again tell her you really terribly have to pee and won't be but a few more minutes, and then stay an hour. She'll be thinking about that the whole time. haha, you guys are funny - it's not an apartment complex - it's actually a high end adult community. You want to get away from screaming kids jumping on your head while you're doing laps and end up with the pool queen to deal with everyday.:shakeshead:
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    Here's how I would have handled it. "I live here and have as much business in this pool as you do. Too bad if you have a problem." Yup, that's how I will deal with this one next year. :duel:
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