I can't believe this happened to poor poor me.:violin:
Recently, I was I'm getting into the outdoor pool in my new residence. The pool has one lap lane. Just as I'm setting up, I hear someone say "oh, you live here?" (not too happily). I turn around and see an older woman standing there with more attitude than all my equipment (and I carry a lot). Long story short, she makes it very clear that this is "her time" and "her lane" and people who live there respect that. I was so shocked I gave in to this bully and let her have the lane and swam on the outside but it wasn't very pleasant. At every opportunity she tried to grill me about where I lived, why I wasn't there all summer, :blah::blah:. The primary reason I selected this development was because of the pool, and lap lane. It's already annoying that it opens later than I'm used to and she made it very clear that she would be there every day upon opening. I hate swimming later in the day - it's too hot and breaks up my whole day. I'm ready to move out already! I guess we will have to alternate use of the lap lane because I am not changing my schedule and I don't think I should have to. :dunno:
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Can you explain again why “it wasn't very pleasant” to swim on the other side of the lane rope?
This coveted narrow lane with ladders along the wall, doesn’t sound like such a great deal to me. Personally I’d rather NOT be swimming in a wall lane.
But back to the question at hand, if you really want the wall lane and you get in it before this little old lady, if she starts to bully you, then respectfully reminder her that you were there first and she can either wait until you are done or choose another lane. If she has a problem with this, then suggest she get the pool manager (not a life guard) and the 3 of you can have a nice friendly chat.
There is no need to be abusive to abusive people and there is no reason that you should be expected to buckle to bullying tactics.
Ok, well, I didn't want to go into detail, but there was an ancient man swimming horizontally across the pool (and thus, me), another man swimming alongside me, and yet another older man swimming head on into me. :doh:Need I say more? It was very stressful. I could care less what side I'm on, but for these very reasons.
She's not a "little old lady," she's in her sixties with attitude pasted all over her. She actually is in good shape and looks darn good - if I were an older gentlemen---I'd be attracted to her until she opened her mouth. I was very accomodating to her, and she was the one who said she wasn't swimming long (and stayed for over an hour), and kept grilling me as to when I moved in, where did I live, where did I swim all summer, this is my lane, people here respect that, etc.--typical behavior of a lane hog. And she doesn't work, but she's gotta be there the second the pool opens. I mean, I understand that it's great to start off the day with your workout, but if it means so much to her, she has the whole dang day!:shakeshead:
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Can you explain again why “it wasn't very pleasant” to swim on the other side of the lane rope?
This coveted narrow lane with ladders along the wall, doesn’t sound like such a great deal to me. Personally I’d rather NOT be swimming in a wall lane.
But back to the question at hand, if you really want the wall lane and you get in it before this little old lady, if she starts to bully you, then respectfully reminder her that you were there first and she can either wait until you are done or choose another lane. If she has a problem with this, then suggest she get the pool manager (not a life guard) and the 3 of you can have a nice friendly chat.
There is no need to be abusive to abusive people and there is no reason that you should be expected to buckle to bullying tactics.
Ok, well, I didn't want to go into detail, but there was an ancient man swimming horizontally across the pool (and thus, me), another man swimming alongside me, and yet another older man swimming head on into me. :doh:Need I say more? It was very stressful. I could care less what side I'm on, but for these very reasons.
She's not a "little old lady," she's in her sixties with attitude pasted all over her. She actually is in good shape and looks darn good - if I were an older gentlemen---I'd be attracted to her until she opened her mouth. I was very accomodating to her, and she was the one who said she wasn't swimming long (and stayed for over an hour), and kept grilling me as to when I moved in, where did I live, where did I swim all summer, this is my lane, people here respect that, etc.--typical behavior of a lane hog. And she doesn't work, but she's gotta be there the second the pool opens. I mean, I understand that it's great to start off the day with your workout, but if it means so much to her, she has the whole dang day!:shakeshead:
