:help: Sorry, just a rant for those of you out there who sympathsize with my college swimming experience..
Okay, I have not spoken to my coach since his comment after my 100free at championships regarding the fact that I don't have any heart, and thats why I am swimming poorly. I can't imagine saying that someone doesn't have heart, when they've given sweat, blood and tears to the sport all in one season. If I wasn't caring that I was stinking, then maybe it would be reasonable to say I didn't have heart, but I was miserable and trying anything to improve my season...so that annoyed me, and I didn't talk to him for the rest of the meet, and haven't talked to him since.
Got an e-mail today that he is making it mandatory that we attend 3 practices a week with him, from now till the end of the semester.
#1. it has been 3 months since championships==why now?
#2. This is the most hectic time of the semester for EVERYONE
#3. I don't want to swim with him in the off season, which is why I am doing masters
:( Miserable in Albany
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Something occurred to me while reading this thread. I'm getting the impression that some of your teammates lack heart, not you (the fastest guy is certainly one of them). Perhaps the coach was preaching to the choir? Or maybe you have more influence on your teammates then you know and he was trying to motivate everyone by directing the comment to you?
I have never coached, but about 2 years ago I was promoted to Manager and I tried EVERYTHING to get my coworkers to respond. These workers were so unmotivated, nothing (and I truly mean nothing) worked. Plus I was help accountable for their shortcomings (like coaches are). Perhaps the coach was experiencing frustration with the team as a whole and you were just in the wrong place at the wrong time.
Dealing with coaches, teachers, classmates, roommates, etc. in college is teaching you valuable lessons for dealing with clients, bosses, coworkers, spouses etc for the rest of your life. If anything, treat it as a life lesson.
Hang in there and keep up the good work. Just remember your coach is human too with daily stress on the job and at home. He is not perfect and presumably he is doing the best that he can. When you speak with him, give him the benefit of the doubt - don't be accusatory, otherwise he'll become defensive and your conversation will be less then productive.
Good luck - Keep us posted!
Something occurred to me while reading this thread. I'm getting the impression that some of your teammates lack heart, not you (the fastest guy is certainly one of them). Perhaps the coach was preaching to the choir? Or maybe you have more influence on your teammates then you know and he was trying to motivate everyone by directing the comment to you?
I have never coached, but about 2 years ago I was promoted to Manager and I tried EVERYTHING to get my coworkers to respond. These workers were so unmotivated, nothing (and I truly mean nothing) worked. Plus I was help accountable for their shortcomings (like coaches are). Perhaps the coach was experiencing frustration with the team as a whole and you were just in the wrong place at the wrong time.
Dealing with coaches, teachers, classmates, roommates, etc. in college is teaching you valuable lessons for dealing with clients, bosses, coworkers, spouses etc for the rest of your life. If anything, treat it as a life lesson.
Hang in there and keep up the good work. Just remember your coach is human too with daily stress on the job and at home. He is not perfect and presumably he is doing the best that he can. When you speak with him, give him the benefit of the doubt - don't be accusatory, otherwise he'll become defensive and your conversation will be less then productive.
Good luck - Keep us posted!
