Two points:
I draw a distinction between "private and confidential" and "said while no one else was around". If someone privately tells me something confidential I will do my best to keep it confidential. If on the other hand someone calls me nasty names while no one else is around to hear it I don't feel any compunction to treat the fact that they did so as confidential. The idea that because I choose to abuse you private message does not earn me any right to your silence in my opinion.
Just my :2cents:
So we should then publicize hateful PMs?
I agree that the hate bomb tosser doesn't earn or deserve the respect of silence. But maybe the rest of the posters here do? Do we want the hatefulness splashed across a serious thread or a new thread dealing with the abuse? How will that help our overworked moderators? I think it's better to respond privately in a non-hateful manner or ignore it completely. PMs should be private. I should clarify that I have only received hateful PMs from two posters in October of last year. I don't think anyone would really have cared to read them. I sure didn't. I'd much rather read a Geek zing interrupting a seemly thread.
Your second paragraph is well stated.
But perhaps the PM debate should be the topic of a separate thread. ;)
Two points:
I draw a distinction between "private and confidential" and "said while no one else was around". If someone privately tells me something confidential I will do my best to keep it confidential. If on the other hand someone calls me nasty names while no one else is around to hear it I don't feel any compunction to treat the fact that they did so as confidential. The idea that because I choose to abuse you private message does not earn me any right to your silence in my opinion.
Just my :2cents:
So we should then publicize hateful PMs?
I agree that the hate bomb tosser doesn't earn or deserve the respect of silence. But maybe the rest of the posters here do? Do we want the hatefulness splashed across a serious thread or a new thread dealing with the abuse? How will that help our overworked moderators? I think it's better to respond privately in a non-hateful manner or ignore it completely. PMs should be private. I should clarify that I have only received hateful PMs from two posters in October of last year. I don't think anyone would really have cared to read them. I sure didn't. I'd much rather read a Geek zing interrupting a seemly thread.
Your second paragraph is well stated.
But perhaps the PM debate should be the topic of a separate thread. ;)
