Non-supportive spouses, friends, docs, etc.

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This was in today's "Dear Abby" column in the paper: DEAR ABBY: I am a 55-year-old female who competes in triathlons for fun, fitness and health. I consulted my doctor because I was having foot pain. When I told him I was a runner and was preparing for a marathon race, his response was, "At your age, you could hardly call it a race." I was shocked. I repeated the insulting comment to my husband, who has never supported me in this nor attended my races. He replied, "Well, you don't actually consider yourself an athlete, do you?" I am so offended that I want to dismiss both my doctor and my husband. I just finished a race with 5,000 women. Every one of them was fabulous and serious, no matter how old or what they looked like. It was the spirit of the sport that mattered. At what age does one stop being an athlete? -- OLDER ATHLETE, EUGENE, ORE. This raised some interesting questions in my mind about support, encouragement, or the lack thereof. I don't want to discuss the "athlete-yes-or-no" question. Instead, I'd like to know how people out there deal with non-supportive spouses, friends, co-workers, doctors, etc. My own experience includes being teased by my co-workers for "getting beat by a 70-year-old woman." (This was after a big meet where they viewed my results on the Internet.) This came from men who are at least 50 pounds overweight and can barely walk from their cars to their desks.
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  • Thought I would let you know that things are going well for me, and I am now able to swim backstroke as well as freestyle and breaststroke. Haven't tried fly yet, but it will come. I don't see the doctor until the end of the month, and he will see that I am capable of much more than being able to comb my hair. Thanks for the encouragement muppet! Awesome news, Jean! Keep up the hard work! After my wrists, the first time I tried to do full butterfly was at a meet. I love me some butterfly, but I told myself it can wait. Back then I didn't want to take any chances, and I think you're wise doing the same!
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  • Thought I would let you know that things are going well for me, and I am now able to swim backstroke as well as freestyle and breaststroke. Haven't tried fly yet, but it will come. I don't see the doctor until the end of the month, and he will see that I am capable of much more than being able to comb my hair. Thanks for the encouragement muppet! Awesome news, Jean! Keep up the hard work! After my wrists, the first time I tried to do full butterfly was at a meet. I love me some butterfly, but I told myself it can wait. Back then I didn't want to take any chances, and I think you're wise doing the same!
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