This was in today's "Dear Abby" column in the paper:
DEAR ABBY: I am a 55-year-old female who competes in triathlons for fun, fitness and health. I consulted my doctor because I was having foot pain. When I told him I was a runner and was preparing for a marathon race, his response was, "At your age, you could hardly call it a race."
I was shocked. I repeated the insulting comment to my husband, who has never supported me in this nor attended my races. He replied, "Well, you don't actually consider yourself an athlete, do you?"
I am so offended that I want to dismiss both my doctor and my husband. I just finished a race with 5,000 women. Every one of them was fabulous and serious, no matter how old or what they looked like. It was the spirit of the sport that mattered. At what age does one stop being an athlete? -- OLDER ATHLETE, EUGENE, ORE.
This raised some interesting questions in my mind about support, encouragement, or the lack thereof. I don't want to discuss the "athlete-yes-or-no" question. Instead, I'd like to know how people out there deal with non-supportive spouses, friends, co-workers, doctors, etc.
My own experience includes being teased by my co-workers for "getting beat by a 70-year-old woman." (This was after a big meet where they viewed my results on the Internet.) This came from men who are at least 50 pounds overweight and can barely walk from their cars to their desks.
He sounds whipped...just my :2cents:
I thought you said men were frightened by strong women... :rofl: How exactly are you using the above adjective? In that funny Richjb British-humor way or in an affectionate :smooch: way?
I'm pretty strong, but it's safe to say Mr. Fortress can still take me. He likes pumping iron and he has diamond calves even though he can't do breaststroke at all ...
On this topic, I'd like to say that some non-swimmer friends/acquaintances can seem somewhat oddly unsupportive. They say "that's great," but they don't really want to talk about swimming. Most don't know what "masters swimming" is. They definitely don't see planning vacations around swim meets. They can't believe how long any swim meet (USS or masters) lasts. And they wonder why I'm always running around in gym clothes and running shoes. I guess it's just a difference in interests. As long as they don't make me talk about auction planning at great length ... (Sorry if I'm offending any avid auction planners. I do volunteer at my kids' schools, clad in gym clothes usually. :D )
He sounds whipped...just my :2cents:
I thought you said men were frightened by strong women... :rofl: How exactly are you using the above adjective? In that funny Richjb British-humor way or in an affectionate :smooch: way?
I'm pretty strong, but it's safe to say Mr. Fortress can still take me. He likes pumping iron and he has diamond calves even though he can't do breaststroke at all ...
On this topic, I'd like to say that some non-swimmer friends/acquaintances can seem somewhat oddly unsupportive. They say "that's great," but they don't really want to talk about swimming. Most don't know what "masters swimming" is. They definitely don't see planning vacations around swim meets. They can't believe how long any swim meet (USS or masters) lasts. And they wonder why I'm always running around in gym clothes and running shoes. I guess it's just a difference in interests. As long as they don't make me talk about auction planning at great length ... (Sorry if I'm offending any avid auction planners. I do volunteer at my kids' schools, clad in gym clothes usually. :D )