Non-supportive spouses, friends, docs, etc.

Former Member
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This was in today's "Dear Abby" column in the paper: DEAR ABBY: I am a 55-year-old female who competes in triathlons for fun, fitness and health. I consulted my doctor because I was having foot pain. When I told him I was a runner and was preparing for a marathon race, his response was, "At your age, you could hardly call it a race." I was shocked. I repeated the insulting comment to my husband, who has never supported me in this nor attended my races. He replied, "Well, you don't actually consider yourself an athlete, do you?" I am so offended that I want to dismiss both my doctor and my husband. I just finished a race with 5,000 women. Every one of them was fabulous and serious, no matter how old or what they looked like. It was the spirit of the sport that mattered. At what age does one stop being an athlete? -- OLDER ATHLETE, EUGENE, ORE. This raised some interesting questions in my mind about support, encouragement, or the lack thereof. I don't want to discuss the "athlete-yes-or-no" question. Instead, I'd like to know how people out there deal with non-supportive spouses, friends, co-workers, doctors, etc. My own experience includes being teased by my co-workers for "getting beat by a 70-year-old woman." (This was after a big meet where they viewed my results on the Internet.) This came from men who are at least 50 pounds overweight and can barely walk from their cars to their desks.
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    Yes, we're content. :rofl: I was more worried about my soon-to-be-teenage daughter.... And I'm also tired of hearing teenage boys call teenage girls on the swim team "mooses." Blech. For real!? Mooses!? Wow! I've never heard that! Times have changed. Or perhaps it's geographical? Here in the south, all I remember is that all the age group boys (swimmers or otherwise) were DYING to get into the age group girls swimmers' pants - and that so and so was "hot," "awesome," "amazing," "the future mother of my children," etc. It was a hormonal hook-up fest. Good times. Actually, quite a few age group swimmers (and one coach/ swimmer relationship even!) ended up happily marrying eachother. . . Is this a large group mentality in your area or just a couple of annoying boys? Perhaps it's something that a big swat upside the head can't cure. . . :joker: Seriously though - I see your concerns. I have a feeling that if your daughters are anything like you are Fortress, said pimply, greasy, prepubescent boys will be put in their place with a witty remark! :D
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  • Former Member
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    Yes, we're content. :rofl: I was more worried about my soon-to-be-teenage daughter.... And I'm also tired of hearing teenage boys call teenage girls on the swim team "mooses." Blech. For real!? Mooses!? Wow! I've never heard that! Times have changed. Or perhaps it's geographical? Here in the south, all I remember is that all the age group boys (swimmers or otherwise) were DYING to get into the age group girls swimmers' pants - and that so and so was "hot," "awesome," "amazing," "the future mother of my children," etc. It was a hormonal hook-up fest. Good times. Actually, quite a few age group swimmers (and one coach/ swimmer relationship even!) ended up happily marrying eachother. . . Is this a large group mentality in your area or just a couple of annoying boys? Perhaps it's something that a big swat upside the head can't cure. . . :joker: Seriously though - I see your concerns. I have a feeling that if your daughters are anything like you are Fortress, said pimply, greasy, prepubescent boys will be put in their place with a witty remark! :D
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