Non-supportive spouses, friends, docs, etc.

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This was in today's "Dear Abby" column in the paper: DEAR ABBY: I am a 55-year-old female who competes in triathlons for fun, fitness and health. I consulted my doctor because I was having foot pain. When I told him I was a runner and was preparing for a marathon race, his response was, "At your age, you could hardly call it a race." I was shocked. I repeated the insulting comment to my husband, who has never supported me in this nor attended my races. He replied, "Well, you don't actually consider yourself an athlete, do you?" I am so offended that I want to dismiss both my doctor and my husband. I just finished a race with 5,000 women. Every one of them was fabulous and serious, no matter how old or what they looked like. It was the spirit of the sport that mattered. At what age does one stop being an athlete? -- OLDER ATHLETE, EUGENE, ORE. This raised some interesting questions in my mind about support, encouragement, or the lack thereof. I don't want to discuss the "athlete-yes-or-no" question. Instead, I'd like to know how people out there deal with non-supportive spouses, friends, co-workers, doctors, etc. My own experience includes being teased by my co-workers for "getting beat by a 70-year-old woman." (This was after a big meet where they viewed my results on the Internet.) This came from men who are at least 50 pounds overweight and can barely walk from their cars to their desks.
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  • Well thanks, but honestly I'm certainly not going to change who I am for some guy. If some guy doesn't like the muscles that go along with swimming then screw him! I am who I am ... I personally think it's much better than the anorexic she could be snapped in half by a strong breeze look, but that's me ... As for the male swimmer body ... :woot: Couldn't agree more baby sister!!! Didn't marry a swimmer, but ex-crew jocks (turned runners) have pretty nice bods too!! :woot: I also think you're right about Joe Average or even some Joe non-swimming athletes. They just want arm candy, not a fellow athlete. Who wants to be mindless arm candy?! Besides, I'm sure those anorexic types can't swim fly. :laugh2:
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  • Well thanks, but honestly I'm certainly not going to change who I am for some guy. If some guy doesn't like the muscles that go along with swimming then screw him! I am who I am ... I personally think it's much better than the anorexic she could be snapped in half by a strong breeze look, but that's me ... As for the male swimmer body ... :woot: Couldn't agree more baby sister!!! Didn't marry a swimmer, but ex-crew jocks (turned runners) have pretty nice bods too!! :woot: I also think you're right about Joe Average or even some Joe non-swimming athletes. They just want arm candy, not a fellow athlete. Who wants to be mindless arm candy?! Besides, I'm sure those anorexic types can't swim fly. :laugh2:
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