Non-supportive spouses, friends, docs, etc.

Former Member
Former Member
This was in today's "Dear Abby" column in the paper: DEAR ABBY: I am a 55-year-old female who competes in triathlons for fun, fitness and health. I consulted my doctor because I was having foot pain. When I told him I was a runner and was preparing for a marathon race, his response was, "At your age, you could hardly call it a race." I was shocked. I repeated the insulting comment to my husband, who has never supported me in this nor attended my races. He replied, "Well, you don't actually consider yourself an athlete, do you?" I am so offended that I want to dismiss both my doctor and my husband. I just finished a race with 5,000 women. Every one of them was fabulous and serious, no matter how old or what they looked like. It was the spirit of the sport that mattered. At what age does one stop being an athlete? -- OLDER ATHLETE, EUGENE, ORE. This raised some interesting questions in my mind about support, encouragement, or the lack thereof. I don't want to discuss the "athlete-yes-or-no" question. Instead, I'd like to know how people out there deal with non-supportive spouses, friends, co-workers, doctors, etc. My own experience includes being teased by my co-workers for "getting beat by a 70-year-old woman." (This was after a big meet where they viewed my results on the Internet.) This came from men who are at least 50 pounds overweight and can barely walk from their cars to their desks.
Parents
  • I, for one, would like to see a SI swimsuit edition with swimmers in it. Just might change the minds of a few teenage boys. The womens beach volley ball matches are always better attended than the mens. (certainly a fair portion of the audience wouldn't know a dig from a spike) Yes, thank you, precisely!!! I seem to recall an SI edition with pictures of "female spouses" of real "athletes," like Roger Clemens' wife. But then you receive the SI anorexic swimsuit edition in the mail. It would be nice to have a swimmers' swim suit issue, since we're the ones that use the darn things anyway. I bet some of us, especially the younger ones, look pretty hot! (I have a volleyball player friend my age and she sure looks great.) I guess we've already seen some of the USS elite, like Coughlin and Beard modeling. In the meantime, I'm just trying to indoctrinate my teenage boy ... but I'm not sure it's working ....
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  • I, for one, would like to see a SI swimsuit edition with swimmers in it. Just might change the minds of a few teenage boys. The womens beach volley ball matches are always better attended than the mens. (certainly a fair portion of the audience wouldn't know a dig from a spike) Yes, thank you, precisely!!! I seem to recall an SI edition with pictures of "female spouses" of real "athletes," like Roger Clemens' wife. But then you receive the SI anorexic swimsuit edition in the mail. It would be nice to have a swimmers' swim suit issue, since we're the ones that use the darn things anyway. I bet some of us, especially the younger ones, look pretty hot! (I have a volleyball player friend my age and she sure looks great.) I guess we've already seen some of the USS elite, like Coughlin and Beard modeling. In the meantime, I'm just trying to indoctrinate my teenage boy ... but I'm not sure it's working ....
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