Non-supportive spouses, friends, docs, etc.

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This was in today's "Dear Abby" column in the paper: DEAR ABBY: I am a 55-year-old female who competes in triathlons for fun, fitness and health. I consulted my doctor because I was having foot pain. When I told him I was a runner and was preparing for a marathon race, his response was, "At your age, you could hardly call it a race." I was shocked. I repeated the insulting comment to my husband, who has never supported me in this nor attended my races. He replied, "Well, you don't actually consider yourself an athlete, do you?" I am so offended that I want to dismiss both my doctor and my husband. I just finished a race with 5,000 women. Every one of them was fabulous and serious, no matter how old or what they looked like. It was the spirit of the sport that mattered. At what age does one stop being an athlete? -- OLDER ATHLETE, EUGENE, ORE. This raised some interesting questions in my mind about support, encouragement, or the lack thereof. I don't want to discuss the "athlete-yes-or-no" question. Instead, I'd like to know how people out there deal with non-supportive spouses, friends, co-workers, doctors, etc. My own experience includes being teased by my co-workers for "getting beat by a 70-year-old woman." (This was after a big meet where they viewed my results on the Internet.) This came from men who are at least 50 pounds overweight and can barely walk from their cars to their desks.
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    Originally posted by swimlong I've gone over and over why my husband does not support my swimming. ... Here's my list: 2. Insecurity - you are fit or getting fit and he/she is not. I don't get why some husbands aren't supportive of their wives swimming. From the male perspective, the BEST female swimming bodies painted with a well-fitting speedo are worthy of being on a Cosmo magazine cover. Now, it's true that not all female swimming bodies fit this example, but swimming improves ANY female (or male) body. Why any husband wouldn't want to encourage that is beyond my grasp. Visual stimulation is near the top of any male's list of what attracts them to females. This should be a no-brainer for husbands. Ladies -- make the most of your improvements in this area. Show him how that teddy fits better and better as you move along your training schedule! :D :D
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    Originally posted by swimlong I've gone over and over why my husband does not support my swimming. ... Here's my list: 2. Insecurity - you are fit or getting fit and he/she is not. I don't get why some husbands aren't supportive of their wives swimming. From the male perspective, the BEST female swimming bodies painted with a well-fitting speedo are worthy of being on a Cosmo magazine cover. Now, it's true that not all female swimming bodies fit this example, but swimming improves ANY female (or male) body. Why any husband wouldn't want to encourage that is beyond my grasp. Visual stimulation is near the top of any male's list of what attracts them to females. This should be a no-brainer for husbands. Ladies -- make the most of your improvements in this area. Show him how that teddy fits better and better as you move along your training schedule! :D :D
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