Non-supportive spouses, friends, docs, etc.

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This was in today's "Dear Abby" column in the paper: DEAR ABBY: I am a 55-year-old female who competes in triathlons for fun, fitness and health. I consulted my doctor because I was having foot pain. When I told him I was a runner and was preparing for a marathon race, his response was, "At your age, you could hardly call it a race." I was shocked. I repeated the insulting comment to my husband, who has never supported me in this nor attended my races. He replied, "Well, you don't actually consider yourself an athlete, do you?" I am so offended that I want to dismiss both my doctor and my husband. I just finished a race with 5,000 women. Every one of them was fabulous and serious, no matter how old or what they looked like. It was the spirit of the sport that mattered. At what age does one stop being an athlete? -- OLDER ATHLETE, EUGENE, ORE. This raised some interesting questions in my mind about support, encouragement, or the lack thereof. I don't want to discuss the "athlete-yes-or-no" question. Instead, I'd like to know how people out there deal with non-supportive spouses, friends, co-workers, doctors, etc. My own experience includes being teased by my co-workers for "getting beat by a 70-year-old woman." (This was after a big meet where they viewed my results on the Internet.) This came from men who are at least 50 pounds overweight and can barely walk from their cars to their desks.
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  • Originally posted by IndyGal It have the opposite problem. My husband panics in anything deeper than a mud puddle, so he thinks I'm a fabulous swimmer. It gets a little embarrassing because he'll tell people what a wonderful swimmer I am, when in reality I'm pretty mediocre. You are a lucky girl! He's very proud of you and I think that's wonderful.
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  • Originally posted by IndyGal It have the opposite problem. My husband panics in anything deeper than a mud puddle, so he thinks I'm a fabulous swimmer. It gets a little embarrassing because he'll tell people what a wonderful swimmer I am, when in reality I'm pretty mediocre. You are a lucky girl! He's very proud of you and I think that's wonderful.
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