Non-supportive spouses, friends, docs, etc.

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This was in today's "Dear Abby" column in the paper: DEAR ABBY: I am a 55-year-old female who competes in triathlons for fun, fitness and health. I consulted my doctor because I was having foot pain. When I told him I was a runner and was preparing for a marathon race, his response was, "At your age, you could hardly call it a race." I was shocked. I repeated the insulting comment to my husband, who has never supported me in this nor attended my races. He replied, "Well, you don't actually consider yourself an athlete, do you?" I am so offended that I want to dismiss both my doctor and my husband. I just finished a race with 5,000 women. Every one of them was fabulous and serious, no matter how old or what they looked like. It was the spirit of the sport that mattered. At what age does one stop being an athlete? -- OLDER ATHLETE, EUGENE, ORE. This raised some interesting questions in my mind about support, encouragement, or the lack thereof. I don't want to discuss the "athlete-yes-or-no" question. Instead, I'd like to know how people out there deal with non-supportive spouses, friends, co-workers, doctors, etc. My own experience includes being teased by my co-workers for "getting beat by a 70-year-old woman." (This was after a big meet where they viewed my results on the Internet.) This came from men who are at least 50 pounds overweight and can barely walk from their cars to their desks.
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    There will always be detractors. Ignore them and do your own thing. After my friends and coworkers learned I was serious about swimming they started making comments like, "I can swim but nothing like you, how do you do it?" "I'm amazed." After I told my doc I had 'competed' in a chairty fundraising swim meet, and said, "It was just a charty meet," he said, "Yeah, but its been at least 40 years since I've swam in any type of meet." And one day at the pool, a little kid saw me do a flip turn, I surfaced in front of the guard's stand and heard the kid say to the guard, "Did you see that old lady flip turn?" The guard laughed and said, "Thats not an old lady, that's Elaine." Believe it or not, those little things are very motivating. Listen for them.
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    There will always be detractors. Ignore them and do your own thing. After my friends and coworkers learned I was serious about swimming they started making comments like, "I can swim but nothing like you, how do you do it?" "I'm amazed." After I told my doc I had 'competed' in a chairty fundraising swim meet, and said, "It was just a charty meet," he said, "Yeah, but its been at least 40 years since I've swam in any type of meet." And one day at the pool, a little kid saw me do a flip turn, I surfaced in front of the guard's stand and heard the kid say to the guard, "Did you see that old lady flip turn?" The guard laughed and said, "Thats not an old lady, that's Elaine." Believe it or not, those little things are very motivating. Listen for them.
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