Non-supportive spouses, friends, docs, etc.

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This was in today's "Dear Abby" column in the paper: DEAR ABBY: I am a 55-year-old female who competes in triathlons for fun, fitness and health. I consulted my doctor because I was having foot pain. When I told him I was a runner and was preparing for a marathon race, his response was, "At your age, you could hardly call it a race." I was shocked. I repeated the insulting comment to my husband, who has never supported me in this nor attended my races. He replied, "Well, you don't actually consider yourself an athlete, do you?" I am so offended that I want to dismiss both my doctor and my husband. I just finished a race with 5,000 women. Every one of them was fabulous and serious, no matter how old or what they looked like. It was the spirit of the sport that mattered. At what age does one stop being an athlete? -- OLDER ATHLETE, EUGENE, ORE. This raised some interesting questions in my mind about support, encouragement, or the lack thereof. I don't want to discuss the "athlete-yes-or-no" question. Instead, I'd like to know how people out there deal with non-supportive spouses, friends, co-workers, doctors, etc. My own experience includes being teased by my co-workers for "getting beat by a 70-year-old woman." (This was after a big meet where they viewed my results on the Internet.) This came from men who are at least 50 pounds overweight and can barely walk from their cars to their desks.
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  • Originally posted by swimmieAvsFan earlier this week, a co-worker and i had it out on whether or not swimming (a real sport) could be lumped in with cheerleading (definitely not a real sport, at least around here!) So why denigrate cheerleading like this? This is just another form of "my sport is better and more of a sport than yours." I have no reason to support cheerleading, but I'm sure there are plenty of people who are serious about it and work hard at it. There's no question it can involve serious athleticism, so why isn't it a sport? My point is you're doing the exact same thing other people are doing that don't think swimming is a legitimate sport.
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  • Originally posted by swimmieAvsFan earlier this week, a co-worker and i had it out on whether or not swimming (a real sport) could be lumped in with cheerleading (definitely not a real sport, at least around here!) So why denigrate cheerleading like this? This is just another form of "my sport is better and more of a sport than yours." I have no reason to support cheerleading, but I'm sure there are plenty of people who are serious about it and work hard at it. There's no question it can involve serious athleticism, so why isn't it a sport? My point is you're doing the exact same thing other people are doing that don't think swimming is a legitimate sport.
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