Non-supportive spouses, friends, docs, etc.

Former Member
Former Member
This was in today's "Dear Abby" column in the paper: DEAR ABBY: I am a 55-year-old female who competes in triathlons for fun, fitness and health. I consulted my doctor because I was having foot pain. When I told him I was a runner and was preparing for a marathon race, his response was, "At your age, you could hardly call it a race." I was shocked. I repeated the insulting comment to my husband, who has never supported me in this nor attended my races. He replied, "Well, you don't actually consider yourself an athlete, do you?" I am so offended that I want to dismiss both my doctor and my husband. I just finished a race with 5,000 women. Every one of them was fabulous and serious, no matter how old or what they looked like. It was the spirit of the sport that mattered. At what age does one stop being an athlete? -- OLDER ATHLETE, EUGENE, ORE. This raised some interesting questions in my mind about support, encouragement, or the lack thereof. I don't want to discuss the "athlete-yes-or-no" question. Instead, I'd like to know how people out there deal with non-supportive spouses, friends, co-workers, doctors, etc. My own experience includes being teased by my co-workers for "getting beat by a 70-year-old woman." (This was after a big meet where they viewed my results on the Internet.) This came from men who are at least 50 pounds overweight and can barely walk from their cars to their desks.
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    Fortunately, my entire family (mom, dad, husband and 10 year old) support swimming in every way. They have all been involved in swimming for so many years (I had a grandfather, uncles a brother and many cousins who swam). I am a coach, swimmer and swim parent. Thank goodness that everybody understands what this sport is and always will be to me.(I would be really lonely by myself!!) It makes me so angry when I have to defend swimming as a sport. I did every sport offered by my town and by far swimming is the most difficult yet most rewarding for me.
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  • Former Member
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    Fortunately, my entire family (mom, dad, husband and 10 year old) support swimming in every way. They have all been involved in swimming for so many years (I had a grandfather, uncles a brother and many cousins who swam). I am a coach, swimmer and swim parent. Thank goodness that everybody understands what this sport is and always will be to me.(I would be really lonely by myself!!) It makes me so angry when I have to defend swimming as a sport. I did every sport offered by my town and by far swimming is the most difficult yet most rewarding for me.
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