Non-supportive spouses, friends, docs, etc.

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This was in today's "Dear Abby" column in the paper: DEAR ABBY: I am a 55-year-old female who competes in triathlons for fun, fitness and health. I consulted my doctor because I was having foot pain. When I told him I was a runner and was preparing for a marathon race, his response was, "At your age, you could hardly call it a race." I was shocked. I repeated the insulting comment to my husband, who has never supported me in this nor attended my races. He replied, "Well, you don't actually consider yourself an athlete, do you?" I am so offended that I want to dismiss both my doctor and my husband. I just finished a race with 5,000 women. Every one of them was fabulous and serious, no matter how old or what they looked like. It was the spirit of the sport that mattered. At what age does one stop being an athlete? -- OLDER ATHLETE, EUGENE, ORE. This raised some interesting questions in my mind about support, encouragement, or the lack thereof. I don't want to discuss the "athlete-yes-or-no" question. Instead, I'd like to know how people out there deal with non-supportive spouses, friends, co-workers, doctors, etc. My own experience includes being teased by my co-workers for "getting beat by a 70-year-old woman." (This was after a big meet where they viewed my results on the Internet.) This came from men who are at least 50 pounds overweight and can barely walk from their cars to their desks.
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    Originally posted by swimmieAvsFan i've been so lucky that my family and close friends have always been very supportive of my swimming. i got lucky because my dad was a swimmers in his younger days, so he understands what it's all about. and my friends all understand because they've always known me as a swimmer (i'm going on year 17 of swimming... and i'm only 24!) now i've dated a few guys who just didn't get it, and i think that's why i'm no longer with any of them! ;) they never understood why i had to get to bed early or couldn't hang out till the evenings... but my current boyfriend is a swimmer himself, so he understands all of this. personally, i think for swimmers, your best bet is to be with a swimmer, cause they're the only ones who get it... :D Like you, I have a very supportive family. I drag my wife, 6 and 3 year old to all my meets, sometimes 4 hours from my home. It's a long day in the car, but I wouldn't give it up for anything.:)
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    Originally posted by swimmieAvsFan i've been so lucky that my family and close friends have always been very supportive of my swimming. i got lucky because my dad was a swimmers in his younger days, so he understands what it's all about. and my friends all understand because they've always known me as a swimmer (i'm going on year 17 of swimming... and i'm only 24!) now i've dated a few guys who just didn't get it, and i think that's why i'm no longer with any of them! ;) they never understood why i had to get to bed early or couldn't hang out till the evenings... but my current boyfriend is a swimmer himself, so he understands all of this. personally, i think for swimmers, your best bet is to be with a swimmer, cause they're the only ones who get it... :D Like you, I have a very supportive family. I drag my wife, 6 and 3 year old to all my meets, sometimes 4 hours from my home. It's a long day in the car, but I wouldn't give it up for anything.:)
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