“The internet is long known as a source of both good and bad advice. The unsolicited advise you have provided directly to a minor involving medical issues is deplorable.”
Again, I think that statement is a tab bit strong…..
aquageek, I think these type of shrinks feel like they have to do that to justify their jobs--god forbid the problem just be lack of effort, or poor parenting.
This is a topic that I'm going to walk away from--as I would be sure to make enemies. I agree with aquageek 100%, and also believe that the breakdown of the family is to blame as well.
Also, I don't believe in ADD, or any of that other 90's psycho crap that has supported the careers of many doctors and shrinks.
aquageek--good luck with your kids...you know what they're up against.
jerrycat
guys, I love each and every one of 'ya, but maybe we should try to remember what the original post was about (and who posted it)- let's give the younger crowd a good impression. Maybe take the professional and parental differences outside, as they say?
lots of love....
I have a 10 year old daughter who is struggling with school right now. We just finished the long process that Lainey is talking about and no they did not jump on ADHD or LD. They evaluated her closely, they put her in winning situations in her tough areas, and we are all monitoring her and teaching her study habits. The conclusion showed no LD, and no ADHD, so not everyone is quick to say there is a problem. It is just when a child who is obviously bright is struggling, then it needs to be looked at. The people involved in this process that has taken well over a year have been very smart and helpful and they are all there advocating for the child. ADHD is very real, and I have seen kids do 180's when it is properly treated. Yes there are others that are diagnosed and should not be, but I think the school systems are being more careful about that diagnosis. Read up on ADHD, there are some good books out there. The information is very interesting, and it is not as simple as putting them on meds, there are behaviour modifications that go along with it.
My daughter's diagnosis -- she is extremely right brained, and creative and sees no use for Math, social studies and science. Motivation is a big problem in these areas, and since her forte is in creative areas, she will struggle with them. The tests should ways to help her learn and study by showing what methods work best with her. This will be helpful as time goes on.
I have a 15 year old boy who is taking a lot of the same classes as JC and has the cruise mentallity. Luckily his grades are up as he still can cruise as he did in Jr High, but it is very easy to become complacent, and then bomb on a test. Then they get the wake up and bring the grades up. Myself, I cruised through HS and most of college before I "woke" up so it is good JC is learning this early.
It sounds like he will get his grades up and be back at swimming soon.!
I'd like to share something a psychologist friend of miune shared with me some time ago...
I like psychology, and read about it a lot, could consider it a sort of a hobby. Don't know as much about it as a professiuonal, but perhaps a tad more than your average Joe.
In the process of learning about it, For a while I went off on a tangent of seeing 2-3 symproms and start thinking, oh, it;'s indicative of a disorder... look, it's a classic symptom!
Well, my psychologyst friend explained to me, to put it simply, it's a long way from seeing couple symptoms and and a full blown disorder or a problem. As he said, mot of us, during the day may exhibit a few dozen little behaviors that can be seen as a symptom of a disorder... But that doesn't mean that there is a disorder or a disability.
Well, just my 2c.
I have a teenage child with ADHD, correctly diagnosed when he was in pre-school. He has benefitted greatly from medication, which has helped him concentrate at school--something that would otherwise be impossible for him.
In my experience, people who dismiss ADD/ADHD as a "myth" rarely have any direct experience with a child who has this disability.
Originally posted by JC_FLY
WHY: I was not prepared for STUDYING, in Jr. High, I got a's and B's by not studying. I was BSing the 1st 2 months of school.
Oh my, am I having highschool flashbacks now!!!
Yea, it's little tougher to get along in HS without studying some. I went through the same rude awakening my first semester of HS.
I remember before HS, I'd get B's if I didn't study, and A's if I thumbed through the chapter before class.
In HS, I had to actually read through the chapter the day before the test! :eek: Took some eating humble pie and getting used to.
And then, of course, there's this "I'm in ***highschool***, kind of a thing too" Yea, unfortunaterly, it's not all party. Darn!
Time to push yourself ;) into learning a new studying habit, ay? :)
Good luck.
JC,
I was a bit puzzled to hear a go-getter like you having academic problems. Hey, now I see a big reason why. You are taking some real, no-kidding classes there, buddy. I count 3 honors courses, a math class most folks do not take their freshman year (or at least not when I was in HS), and a language course past the intro stage. Phew! Give yourself some credit for your reach momentarily exceeding your grasp.
It may not feel this way right now, but you are doing exactly what you need to be doing to succeed in high school, college, swimming, and when you get right down to it life. This momentary hiccup in your plans may turn out to be a real blessing if you can learn how to handle demanding situations and time management. Right now you are really pushing on the CURRENT limits of your abilities, and that is exactly what you need to be doing to EXPAND those abilities, and live up to your potential. Good job! This is a great opportunity for you to learn about this at a fairly young age. Keep plugging; you're doing fine. If you would like to chat about college some time, drop us another line. (Who knows? Maybe the LD/ADD holy war will have died down by the time you are a senior.)
Matt
HEY JC well done for seeking help..firstly
HEY all posters well done for trying to help
i take it you feel "grounded" now jc?
well dont take it too harshly,most people on here have had a "break" from swimming in their pasts!!all ya gotta do is checkout all the different forums...take a break enjoy a physical break ...find yourself ..your studies will improve..get good ENOUGH grades not neceserily "A's"(pardon my spelling ,i only got grade 3 for english)i think you'll do just fine .....but get back to swimming as soon as you're able..even if it takes 12 months or even years..GOOD LUCK
