I'm afarid because my mother may lose her foot because of infection. She has already had operations for heart attacks and I fell she is getting closer to death. I know that many of you are strangers out there. And probably thing this is weird. I'm afaird of my parents dieding. Anyone else out there experiance this fear. If some of you are religious pray to God for my mother.
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I've lost both parents. My Dad went downhill over several years and to be honest, his death was somewhat of a relief. I think I'd done most of my grieving over the last couple of years when his mental status deteriorated and he wasn't really the Dad I'd known all those years. My Mom went very unexpectedly a year and a half later. That was tough to handle. But my siblings are even closer than we were as a result of getting through it together. Since my family had always lived in the same house, the need to clean out and sell the house was the hardest thing for me. I had dreaded that before either of them died - and it was every bit as hard as I expected. But time does make things better. I do remember the first couple weeks right after Mom's death, I felt best after swimming and other workouts. I gave myself a break on other stuff but not exercise cause it actally helped me cope.
Don't be surprised if odd things get to you, you never know what will trigger a memory. And let yourself be a little selfish when you need to be. It sounds like you are in the supporter/caretaker role right now and that's a tough one. And some fear is normal, just means you are a caring human being.
I've lost both parents. My Dad went downhill over several years and to be honest, his death was somewhat of a relief. I think I'd done most of my grieving over the last couple of years when his mental status deteriorated and he wasn't really the Dad I'd known all those years. My Mom went very unexpectedly a year and a half later. That was tough to handle. But my siblings are even closer than we were as a result of getting through it together. Since my family had always lived in the same house, the need to clean out and sell the house was the hardest thing for me. I had dreaded that before either of them died - and it was every bit as hard as I expected. But time does make things better. I do remember the first couple weeks right after Mom's death, I felt best after swimming and other workouts. I gave myself a break on other stuff but not exercise cause it actally helped me cope.
Don't be surprised if odd things get to you, you never know what will trigger a memory. And let yourself be a little selfish when you need to be. It sounds like you are in the supporter/caretaker role right now and that's a tough one. And some fear is normal, just means you are a caring human being.
