:badday:I just got back from practice and basically the coach told me I'd get more out of swim lessons than masters. I thought I was doing pretty well, but I guess he was blowing smoke up my skirt (or swimsuit) when he told me that during my first practice. Basically, if I don't want to swim with other people, masters probably isn't for me.
I feel badly because I thought I'd found a home with this team. I know he's trying to do his best for me and is willing to give me lessons to improve my technique and get me comfortable enough to swim with the other beginners. But it feels like I've been sent to remedial swim class. So my confidence has been completely deflated. I joined masters because I thought I'd get a better workout than swimming alone. I know being in the lane with others makes you push yourself more, and I was working my way to that, and he said he wants me on his team. But honestly, I'm not interested in being on a team. I just want to get in the freakin' pool and swim for fitness.
I understand what you are all saying. The main issue is that the coach did a total flip turn from the first to the third workout. He said he wanted me to swim with the others, but assured me he didn't care how long it took me to feel confident enough to do it, then he did care. He said some stuff that strongly implied the other beginners were dedicated, but I was not. If he'd said those things at my first practice, I would not have gone back.
If you don't want to coach someone, tell them. If you require they put on grown up panties to swim with you, tell them. If you think they don't comprehend the meaning of team, explain it. And if they have issues, either let them become part of the team at their own pace or tell them to go elsewhere. Be consistent. Don't say they're awesome and will do great if you don't mean it.
FYI, I asked to share a lane at the rec center this morning, and the guy moved over to the deep end instead.
I understand what you are all saying. The main issue is that the coach did a total flip turn from the first to the third workout. He said he wanted me to swim with the others, but assured me he didn't care how long it took me to feel confident enough to do it, then he did care. He said some stuff that strongly implied the other beginners were dedicated, but I was not. If he'd said those things at my first practice, I would not have gone back.
If you don't want to coach someone, tell them. If you require they put on grown up panties to swim with you, tell them. If you think they don't comprehend the meaning of team, explain it. And if they have issues, either let them become part of the team at their own pace or tell them to go elsewhere. Be consistent. Don't say they're awesome and will do great if you don't mean it.
FYI, I asked to share a lane at the rec center this morning, and the guy moved over to the deep end instead.
