Better to date or marry a swimmer or not?

It' good ot marry someone with similar interests but this can become a conflict when kids arrive and each want time for training...well this conflict comes anyway but with 2 athletes it could be very costly. Swimmers are hot and more comfortable with their bodies than the average person....plus they don't go on 900 mile car rides wearing diapers--well they might if they'r told it will tke off .01 seconds per length...:rofl:

Who needs diapers? True swimmers pee wherever they are, diapers or not. Sorry, couldn't resist the chance. billy fanstone.

But what do I know, I'm still single. Wait..I thought I just heard muppet heading to his car asking how to get Virginia

Kyra, you are sorely mistaken :dedhorse: True I've some very hairy people swimming, but most competitive swimmers have little hair.....and if they dont' they should cuz it's hot. ;) Jules...Power to the single people!! :woot:

Sharing a common sport like swimming forms an incredibly powerfull bond and relationship with couples. Indeed, the swimming bond improves with age. Some of the happiest couples are swimmers. The best romantic relationship I ever had was with a fellow swimmer and runner. So, I am still looking for another swimmer. Finally, the couple that swims together also finds love together.

I dated a guy from Maryland (a triathlete, and I could swim so much faster than he could and that was a whole other issue) and he never wanted to drive to VA to hang out here. Being the nice person that I am I always drove to Maryland, and it's only about 20 minutes. Safe to say that relationship didn't last long. Julie..you're supposed to let him win...guys like to feel powerful... :rolleyes: 2 things: 1) I must have missed where Muppet said he was not single 2) Mrs Swimstud is freaked out by my hairless bod and asks if it really makes a difference to my swim... ;) hehe

I'm only a recent swimmer, but I don't believe that partners need to share interests. I do, however, think that partners need to respect and support each others choices. My husband and I came into our marriage with mostly different interests, many which we introduced each other to over the 17 years we've been hitched. He taught me to sail, I got him travelling, he convinced me to join his band, I convinced him to try all sorts of ethnic cuisines. With respect to the interests we don't share, we try to support one another. I don't share his thrill of rewiring the sound board every week:dunno:, but I give him space to do it. He thinks swimming is a survival skill, but has never once complained about the time I'm spending at the pool (or being the parent-in-charge while I'm there). (I agree with Rich about sharing interests being costly: our band disbanded in part because the only people making money off our gigs were our babysitters!)

Swimmers do absolutely nothing for me (no offense). I like the big guys, for example: built more for football. Never dated a swimmer in my past, and never wanted to. My friends have, and things just plain got messy - (especially when they're on the same team)... not cool. However, I'd love for my husband to swim. He actually has some great natural technique (probably because his wingspan is HUGE) - but he just can't time the breathing well during freestyle... and he just gives up. Maybe some day he'll get it. But I'd have to say, it's kind of nice to have my time away from the men in my house (hubby and baby). He likes to go to meets and watch me compete - and takes note of my improvements in my strokes... it's cute. Anyways, I think it just depends on the individual if they want to be with a swimmer or not.

At the risk of melding science and flirtation, perhaps we need to examine this thread on swimming and mating from an evolutionary biology point of view. Start with the premise that most of what guys do is designed, consciously or not, to attract mates/reproductive possibilities. Granted, when you are settled down, raising kids from your primary pair bond, etc., the impetus for philandering is muted, though arguably not entirely extinguished. For women, there seems to be at least some drive to mix up the DNA possibilities, vis a vis healthy, superior specimen type guys (i.e., swimmers.) Names like SwimStud, for example, argue that there is perhaps more than a snifter of this sort of thing going on, albeit subtly: we are all, in a sense, the ventriloquist dummies of our genes and their imperatives. I don't pretend to know what women want, but here's something to explain why so many of us guys find threads like this one enjoyable (particularly when we get replies from the Fortresses of the swimming world--this, by the way, being another telling name: fortress as something that is impenetrable by anything but the absolutely most determined and vigorous and indefatigable combination of endurance and sprint-swimmer vitality, if that): The Coolidge Effect, once known as simply the novelty effect, got its named thusly: One day the President and Mrs. Coolidge were visiting a government farm. Soon after their arrival they were taken off on separate tours. When Mrs. Coolidge passed the chicken pens she paused to ask the man in charge if the rooster copulates more than once each day. "Dozens of times," was the reply. "Please tell that to the President," Mrs. Coolidge requested. When the President passed the pens and was told about the roosters, he asked, "Same hen every time?" "Oh no, Mr. President, a different one each time." The President nodded slowly, then said, "Tell that to Mrs. Coolidge." While presenting findings at a scientific meeting, two researchers referred to the "Coolidge effect" and the phrase stuck and has been a fixture in the scientific literature ever since. So please put me down in the column that likes to read both types of threads: those that seriously discuss swimming, and how to get better at it; and those that resonate in the back of my admittedly reptilian brain for why I even bother to swim at all. Maybe the forum web site guy could install a V-chip for anybody who doesn't want to be exposed to the latter? For anyone who might wish they had such a V-chip installed when reading the current post, I do apologize! Women swimmers: please feel free to PM me directly with any form of flirtation you would like to get off your, well, swim-toned chests.

We also like to come here to just socialize a little..... A little, have you been on the forum much lately? Actually, Fortress doesn't annoy me, when she sticks to swimming. Gull is a big annoyance but I've taken care of him for the time being. I gotta get scyfreestyler in line soon as well, he's on my list.