Better to date or marry a swimmer or not?

RE: Better to date or marry a swimmer or not?

Former Member — Fri, 09 Feb 2007 17:41:53 GMT

I would like to clarify what I have been saying. I have never had an issue with NSR topics and enjoy them greatly. I, however, am totally sick of the rampant flirtation, body part discussing, irrelevant and inappropriate comments made on a swimming forum. That is why I suggest taking that all-too-frequent stuff to another type of forum. It is completely out of control and a new thing on this forum. Not that change is bad, but in this case, it is. For instance, a while back there was a good thread pertaining to suit styles for women. That is good. The talk of bras and water resistance in the context of marriage proposals serves no purpose. What is the point? Would you want your husband or kids to read that you wrote that? Further, for those of us who don't care to see all that junk, it makes the forum unwelcoming and a bit uncomfortable. I'm here for the inevitable pot shots, so fire away. A-Friggin-Men!

RE: Better to date or marry a swimmer or not?

Former Member — Fri, 09 Feb 2007 17:39:58 GMT

I for one can't think of anything more kissy kissy than you and Gull's recent thread. First of all, I lost a bet and had to pay up. Second, that thread was about swimming. The picture was posted to show that Geek is not the Speedo guy (and also that I am the better looking one).

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Former Member — Fri, 09 Feb 2007 17:23:57 GMT

I'm here for the inevitable pot shots, so fire away. posted by The AquaGeek How did I know you were going to make this invitation? :rofl: :rofl: Come on Geek, you know you only brought this up to create a little controversy...admit it! Since when did you become such a total prude Pat Robertson type anyway?....LOL!....Should we also get rid of this emoticon too? :hug: since it is also too kissy kissy?.....I for one can't think of anything more kissy kissy than you and Gull's recent thread. Lighten up a bit my friend! Newmastersswimmer

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Former Member — Fri, 09 Feb 2007 17:10:11 GMT

I finally felt that I had to weigh in on this squabble and I'll save my most pendulous prose for another occasion. I love these forums: they are well-run, enthusiastically participated in and for the most part clearly labelled. On occasion, the most narrow swimming topic gets struck off course, when they stay off course it is usually boils down to a personality conflict, pretty impossible to avoid. These days, such conflicts are handled pretty well, I think. USA Swimming forums melted down when very narrow swimming topics degenerated to name-calling etc. The fact that there is a 'General' forum and people are using the NSR designation should be enough; if someone in particular is 'hijacking' a specific thread, call them on it. We don't seem to have any of the brouhaha when major meets, whether Masters or otherwise are happening, we are all big swim fans and revel in dissecting what is going on; we have been in the 'dog days' in between lately, but, oh joy, World Champs (open) next month and then Masters Nats shortly thereafter. Celebrate our differences.

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Former Member — Fri, 09 Feb 2007 15:25:27 GMT

What does this have to do with swimming though? posted by Rich Define swimming exactly?....I was just responding to your recent post about finding time to play soccer as a way to exercise (In response to Kirk's posting about everyone having time to do some exercise)....so its all cool in the fact that it definitely fits the flow of the thread then right?? ....Does talking about whether or not that crazy astronaut chick deserves our prayers have anything to do with swimming? Newmastersswimmer

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Former Member — Fri, 09 Feb 2007 15:19:03 GMT

I'd manage a few pick up games of Football (soccer for you guys) in summer for a few weeks outside of summer semester but a regime was out of the question. posted by Richie Rich So you like to play futbol (AKA as soccer to Americans) eh Rich? I think we should include a soccer competition now to go along with our swimming challenges....That way I can kick your British behind both in and out of the water. What do you say there Richie? Newmastersswimmer OK. If you're certain, before we play though go read up on Norman "bite your legs" Hunter, Julian "Terminator" Dicks, Ron "Chopper" Harris, Stuart "Psycho" Pearce. I'm Britishe and a defender. This means I am at the aggressive and less skillful end of the Footballing talent spectrum. I'm not nasty or intentionally vicious, but I won't take kindly to ball juggling or fancy stuff...you get 1 free bit of showmanship...then I'll consider anymore fancy foot stuff a personal challenge. Up to you... What does this have to do with swimming though?

RE: Better to date or marry a swimmer or not?

Former Member — Fri, 09 Feb 2007 15:17:39 GMT

I don't want Geek to leave the forum, Jim. It would lessen the entertainment value of all his NSR posts. As my friend (is this a dirty word now?) said, let's celebrate our differences. I'm still waiting for a Geek post dealing with the "meat of swimming" though (aside from lane etiquette that is). posted by The Fortress Don't worry FAF Sista friend.....Anyone who has been posting around here for any length of time knows that the Geek is full of it. He's not going anywhere....this is just another one of his silly games to create more controversy on the boards....the guy lives for this stuff. If he is really serious about his recent complaints, then that would make him the biggest hypocrite on the board (since as you've pointed out in several recent postings), The Geek is one of the biggest violators of thread hijacking and blathering on about non-swimming related topics there is (well I guess I am marginally bad at those things too...maybe??...LOL!!). Don't shed any tears for the Geek. Be ruthless like me....its much more fun...LOL!!:banana: :banana: :banana: Newmastersswimmer

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Former Member — Fri, 09 Feb 2007 14:36:56 GMT

That's because we're powerful women and superhero men and we don't need no stinkin' push up bras. posted by the fortress You rock FAF Sista!!....That was awesome...LOL!!:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: I know the best way to settle this little problem. Instead of restructuring the rules so that Mr. stiffenstien can read technical manuals about swimming exclusively on this board, why not just get rid of the Geek instead?....Who's with me? (Is instigating an all out riot a suspendable offense??) I'd manage a few pick up games of Football (soccer for you guys) in summer for a few weeks outside of summer semester but a regime was out of the question. posted by Richie Rich So you like to play futbol (AKA as soccer to Americans) eh Rich? I think we should include a soccer competition now to go along with our swimming challenges....That way I can kick your British behind both in and out of the water. What do you say there Richie? Newmastersswimmer

RE: Better to date or marry a swimmer or not?

Former Member — Fri, 09 Feb 2007 12:55:27 GMT

You are right, my friend - with more superhero and bra messages, how could it not be red hot? I've read about myspace, maybe I'll check that place out and look for some swimming content. Now that Cruise is on this thread I'll have to go pull out my dictionary to keep up. try facebook too!

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aquageek — Fri, 09 Feb 2007 12:11:58 GMT

RE: Better to date or marry a swimmer or not?

The Fortress — Fri, 09 Feb 2007 12:07:28 GMT

Can we finally get back to the dating bit? I think someone hijacked this thread. :rofl: Geek has a habit of doing that. Whoops, just "J/K-ing" ala newmastersswimmer. (Geek: Did ya miss all his recent posts?) I related my NSR "dating" disaster when I was a wee teenager (although we were both swimmers, so it may count as on topic and SR). I'll give you a hint, jaegermeister. Said dumper is also still a relay record holder for your beloved ORCAs from the AAU 70s. So you can go mull that over. If you can guess who it is, I'll give you a gold medal. And you can sit at the table dancing table at nationals (which Geek doesn't know about because he doesn't read the very SR "threadies awards") -- since you like the whole forum, not just bits and pieces of it that are ever so difficult to "weed" through. Boo flippin' hoo. But is it really OK if we're friends? Is that allowed here? Not dating anyone currently. ;)

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The Fortress — Fri, 09 Feb 2007 10:26:07 GMT

Don't shed any tears for the Geek. Be ruthless like me....its much more fun...Newmastersswimmer Hardly. If I started shedding tears, then Geek would be really annoyed with me. Besides, it's not in keeping with my name or nature. Obviously, Geek's not going anywhere. He likes his status as forum legend. He's probably just cranky because the old flame wars are over and he may be tired of picking on TI. Although, now that I think about it, he did chime in on one of those contentious shoulder threads with a timely zing that made my twin smile. ("Twin" is probably a bad word too ... Too NSR and "kissy kissy.)" P.S. Ryan Hall recently broke the American Record in the half marathon. I would've liked to see LBJ racewalk in the day.

RE: Better to date or marry a swimmer or not?

The Fortress — Fri, 09 Feb 2007 10:09:57 GMT

bra messages Ah good, back to swimming. I believe the lack of the need to wear push up bras actually helps my swimming. Less to lug around, helps with drag resistance. All good stuff. On topic, the lack thereof didn't seem to unduly hinder my dating or marriage prospects either. If it did, the person would obviously need to be drop kicked or ignored. I'm sorry you'll be forced to pull out a dictionary, Geek. I won't. The forum would be much more dull without your former lard bombing nemesis' purple prose. I personally don't go to facebook or myspace or even running forums anymore. Tempted to go to Solar Energy's forum, but I can only handle so many addictions. Swimming is my drug of choice at the moment. I don't want Geek to leave the forum, Jim. It would lessen the entertainment value of all his NSR posts. As my friend (is this a dirty word now?) said, let's celebrate our differences. I'm still waiting for a Geek post dealing with the "meat of swimming" though (aside from lane etiquette that is).

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aquaFeisty — Fri, 09 Feb 2007 08:02:50 GMT

As to married swimmers, I heard a lot of :argue: tonight on that topic. However, the fact that Aquafeisty married her coach is pretty cool. Thanks! It is pretty cool... most of the time. :D

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aquageek — Fri, 09 Feb 2007 05:43:11 GMT

This thread will be on fire tomorrow AM. That is all. You are right, my friend - with more superhero and bra messages, how could it not be red hot? I've read about myspace, maybe I'll check that place out and look for some swimming content. Now that Cruise is on this thread I'll have to go pull out my dictionary to keep up.

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Former Member — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 17:22:41 GMT

My wife used to be an athlete and did hurdles in HS. 2 kids took a lot out of her body and I'm am always telling her to get some workouts in for her heallth--nothing to do with weight. She can't swim far, and is terrified of water since she nearly drowned off of Coney Island back in the day. I'd have been more terrifed to "walk" on coney Island (hope that's not too cutesy or funny for the thread). However the fact she is less athletic means I have more free time to go swim and such. The kids are getting older and there is some time now but I can't do her workouts for her...I can't nag either. Now if I had the $ to go with the free time I'd be at alot of meets beyond a 1hr dive. Rich PS m2tall2. are you looking for no attached relay buds? Is so what day? I posted on NE thread. I can't PM you here u have it blocked. I assure you my intentionis are strictly serious for swimming, and no flirtation need whatsoever.

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Former Member — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 17:20:05 GMT

Every thread these days turns into a flirt session and it's becoming highly annoying. posted by the AquaGeek What exactly doesn't annoy you Geek?....Maybe you should try some deep relaxation therapy to help loosen you up a bit...LOL!!:lolup: :lolup: :groovy: BTW I hate to have to admit it, but I agree 100% with what Richie Rich said about being able to joke around a little and not just talk about swimming stats, workout strategies, and stroke mechanics exclusively all the time....We also like to come here to just socialize a little.....so I don't see that as flirting....I can't help it if all the women around here can't stop flirting with me now can I?....:joker: Newmastersswimmer :banana: :banana: :banana: :banana: :thhbbb: :thhbbb:

RE: Better to date or marry a swimmer or not?

Former Member — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 16:53:27 GMT

I've always wondered if married swimming couples can only converse in 20 second intervals every few minutes. Some couples - non-swimming or otherwise - don't even manage that!

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Former Member — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 16:49:19 GMT

My wife and I have taken the exact opposite tack: we keep our money separate. Yeah, we both contribute to the common household expenses, but then we can spend or save our discretionary income however we see fit without the other person questioning it (much, anyway :)). I'm not going to say it's perfect, but it works pretty well. discretionary income...never heard of that... ;)

RE: Better to date or marry a swimmer or not?

Former Member — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 16:32:16 GMT

Can we finally get back to the dating bit? I think someone hijacked this thread. :rofl:

RE: Better to date or marry a swimmer or not?

Former Member — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 16:20:40 GMT

I don't know either. That's why I asked the question! :) I would think it could. No one wants to feel inferior all the time. Same kind of thing as if one partner is making a lot more money than the other. It's going to depend on the 2 people and how they can shut off after swimming or what not. The money thing is interesting. My grandparents told me one thing when I got married. "There's no mine and yours...just ours....otherwise it won't work." 17 years later it seems this was a good piece of advice.

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Former Member — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 16:20:23 GMT

This thread will be on fire tomorrow AM. That is all.

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Former Member — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 15:46:02 GMT

As to what Rich said earlier, ditto, with interest. If you check my posts, you'll notice that I don't post in the serious swimming threads. I read these threads, have studied some of them in depth in fact. But I'm new to swimming: I don't post in them unless I have a question because I am in a learning and absorbing role. Most of the time, I want to be part of this swimming community. There are people on this forum whom I want to know, whom I find interesting, engaging and insightful both in and out of swimming topics. If I didn't post on "lighter" topics, no one would know I'm here, a part of this. I swim on my own right now, and it can feel pretty lonely. Chatting lightly with people here keeps me tied to the swimming community and to some fine people while I'm working at it. While the idea of keeping the forum focused only on swimming isn't itself exclusionary and/or elitist, the tone of some people proposing the idea certainly is. And that frosts me to no end.

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Former Member — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 15:44:42 GMT

This brings up another point, though, does the competition in the pool ever affect your relationship? It seems like it would, maybe even more so if we're talking about a same sex partner. But competition in the pool could affect any relationship, including friendships. Is it amplified when you're sleeping (or want to sleep) with the other person? That's not rhetorical - I am genuinely asking.

RE: Better to date or marry a swimmer or not?

Former Member — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 15:42:04 GMT

In my experience an interest in actually taking part in sport of some kind is more important than swimming specifically - otherwise no matter how hard they try, they just do not ever truly understand that you're not a lunatic. Although if you are both swimmers neither of you will notice the smell of chlorine. And of course any regular physical exercise will improve your stamina.