Mental Health and Swimming During Covid

RE: Mental Health and Swimming During Covid

Elaine Krugman — Thu, 03 Jun 2021 16:35:40 GMT

"tell him that you can't wear a diaper as it would prevent you from peeing in his lane."

RE: Mental Health and Swimming During Covid

swimike — Thu, 03 Jun 2021 03:31:56 GMT

This is a time where overly opinionated persons have their platform both on the right and left. I agree with most of the commentary here but often times when you have a one-on-one conversation with people like this sometimes they see that, on a personal level, you cannot be irked and they may come to respect you. You may then say, as a friend, (or not), that you respect his opinions but the opinions he's presenting in the manner he's doing so is unwelcome. I learned from a former co-worker to, "kill them with kindness." If, however, this person is a narcissist or sociopath, then yes, just ignore him and tell him that you can't wear a diaper as it would prevent you from peeing in his lane.

RE: Mental Health and Swimming During Covid

Elaine Krugman — Wed, 02 Jun 2021 21:30:32 GMT

I feel your pain! If you are like me, the pool is your happy place, and the last thing you want to hear is an obnoxious jerk trying as hard as he can to spoil it for you. I absolutely agree with King Frog (Allen Stark) on this. Do not confront him; AND, the coach needs to step in and put a stop to it!

RE: Mental Health and Swimming During Covid

Allen Stark — Wed, 02 Jun 2021 00:21:37 GMT

I agree you should not confront him or interact any more than necessary. I think, however the coach has a responsibility to create a positive culture for the team Maybe the coach is dealing with it in his own way and making progress, or maybe he isn't This guy has the potential to run off a lot of people who aren't willing to put up with this BS. If the coach is handling it he should privately share that with others before the team falls apart. One bad apple can spoil it for everyone

RE: Mental Health and Swimming During Covid

quicksilver — Tue, 01 Jun 2021 23:51:21 GMT

Your coach is right. Just ignore. A dialogue even with the best of intentions is giving this fellow what he wants. Someone's attention. Everyone has been affected in some shape or form by this past 14 months. Some more than others. For what it's worth, many people harbored some genuine anger over the masks which became a highly politicized topic. Now it's the vaccines.

Anyway, if he's a swimmer maybe that common thread will create some semblance of normalcy while you're swimming. Hopefully he's not in your lane, but that said, what do his lane mates say? Do you see them banter with him? If so, then you may be able to get a better read on his behavior. Some people are just naturally brash, and with zero compunction to put that behavior in check, especially when they're disgruntled about life in general. he could be harmlessly venting with no idea that he's coming across as a nut job. At the end of the day, your coach is aware, and he surely would know how to handle in case he sensed something was seriously wrong. Swim happy - and thankfully, we don't need to wear our face diapers in the pool. :)